My girlfriend wants to share a debt of 2 billion VND, I don't know whether to marry her or not.

(Dan Tri) - I used to think my life was peaceful until I met a girl who turned everything upside down in me.

I am 30 years old, working in the design field with a stable income of about 25-30 million VND/month. My family is not rich but does not lack anything either.

My girlfriend is 29 years old, an incredibly attractive woman. The first time we met, I was attracted by her elegant appearance, intelligent and emotional way of speaking.

We met through a mutual friend. At first, I didn't think this relationship would go far, because of the age gap and our different lifestyles. But somehow, the closer we got, the more I realized that we had so much in common.

She is not only beautiful, but also has a gentle and delicate personality. Every time I am with her, I feel light and comfortable, as if I am freed from everyday stress. She loves me sincerely, without asking for anything material.

My girlfriend informed me that she owed 2 billion VND, which shocked me deeply (Illustration: ShutterStock).

After 5 months of knowing each other, I thought about getting married because we were both not young anymore. She was a strong, independent woman who ran her own small fashion store. I thought that if we both tried, we could build a happy family.

But then, a long-buried secret changed everything. Last month, when we went out to eat together, I noticed she was unhappy. After asking for a long time, she finally admitted that she owed the bank 2 billion VND. Hearing that number, I was stunned, not daring to believe my ears.

She explained that the money came from investing in stocks and real estate. Because she trusted a friend, she invested all her capital and borrowed more to invest. But then, everything was lost.

She has been struggling to pay off this debt for over 3 years, working hard every month to pay the interest. The income from the store is only enough to maintain basic living conditions and pay the interest. She had to borrow more from relatives.

When I heard my girlfriend tell me, I felt both pity and anger. I felt sorry for her for trying to bear everything on her own without complaining. But I was also angry that she had hidden it from me for so long. If I hadn't found out, my girlfriend would have continued to endure it silently.

I love her. But if we get married, this debt will become a shared burden. Is love strong enough to overcome these financial pressures?

At the climax, my lover frankly asked me: "Do you intend to pay off the debt with me? If you can't share, I think we shouldn't continue."

That question made me stunned. I love her, but taking on a debt of 2 billion VND was something I had never thought of.

I spent many nights thinking. If I continued, I would face huge financial pressure and opposition from my family. But if I stopped, I would lose the woman I truly loved.

In the end, I chose to face reality. I told her, "I love you, but I can't pay your debt for you. If we want to be together, you need to change yourself and take responsibility for what you've done. I'll be there for you, but I won't be the one to take responsibility for you."

The next day, my girlfriend texted me saying she wanted to stop, because she didn't want to drag me into a life full of trouble.

Until now, I still don't know if my decision was right or wrong. Sometimes, I feel relieved because I don't have to bear the huge debt. But sometimes, I feel regretful because I lost the woman I love.

2 billion VND, if I sell the land, it will be enough to pay off my lover's debt. Am I too selfish, not sacrificing and being sympathetic to my woman?

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