Not only asking and encouraging, the young man with Down syndrome also accompanied his stroke-stricken father to learn to walk and speak in the hospital's physical therapy room.
The son massaged his father's limbs and asked in a slightly harsh voice: "Dad, did you argue with your wife?", "Did your wife bully you?", "Dad, can you come back to me?", "Dad, are you hungry?", "Dad, do you miss me?", "Dad, say it, read it, one, two, three, a, a, a...". The repeated questions every day from the youngest son Nguyen Ngoc Bao Son (18 years old), who unfortunately has Down syndrome, made Nguyen Ngoc Oanh laugh endlessly while lying on the hospital bed.
Bao Son, 18 years old, from Hai Duong, currently lives in Hanoi with his family. Son is the youngest child of Do Dung and Ngoc Oanh. After a stroke exactly 1 month ago, Oanh's language and motor functions are limited.
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Little boy Bao Son chats with his father at the hospital bed. Photo cut from clip provided by family |
"From Monday to Friday, my husband's exercise is supported by the doctor and his family. On Saturday and Sunday, the family actively exercises for him," said Dung. Every time his mother goes to the hospital to take care of his father, Son follows her. At first, he only watched his mother and the doctors perform supportive movements. Gradually, he himself massaged his father's hands, feet, and gently massaged his temples.
"Just take me through the rooms once, from the leg room, arm room to the language room, with detailed, specific instructions, and next time I can push the wheelchair to take Dad to the training rooms myself," she said.
People who practice language and memory recovery after a stroke are like returning to their childhood, learning to count, practice speaking each word, practice memorizing, requiring the support person and the patient himself to be persistent. Therefore, the appearance of Son with his humorous, adorable features and lisping voice "teaching" the doctors and the elderly to read numbers from one to ten, learning letters made everyone in room 14 of the Rehabilitation Center, Bach Mai Hospital, happy, calling him "teacher Son".
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Son "teaches" his father and uncles to count and read the alphabet. Photo cut from clip provided by family |
"I am very loved by the uncles and aunts. Every day before leaving, I spend 5-10 minutes saying goodbye to them several times, but I still can't leave. Everyone reminds me to let 'teacher Son' come in to 'teach' everyone rehabilitation exercises," Dung shared.
Many people who know the story of the young man with Down syndrome loving and taking care of his father in the hospital room are both moved and curious. "Normal people are not necessarily able to care for their parents like that, not necessarily able to say loving words"; or "don't say she's disabled, she has a heart full of love for her father" - those are the words people shared with Son when watching the clip recording the moment this young man took care of his father.
Having Down syndrome makes it very difficult for Son to speak and communicate. Therefore, the joy and emotions he brings to everyone are all the more precious. On May 13, after more than 3 weeks of post-stroke rehabilitation, Ngoc Oanh was discharged from the hospital. On the last afternoon at the hospital, everyone was attached to "teacher Son". An 89-year-old man just saw Oanh and her father off, sadly saying, "Who will teach them to read and count?"
For Son to have the progress he has today, Ms. Dung said it was a long journey with the whole family accompanying him with a lot of effort and love. “Son was discovered to have Down syndrome when he was 3 months old. At that time, my husband and I were confused and shocked. There was also a man in the village with this syndrome. At 30 years old, he was just foolish, wandering around the streets, I was afraid that my child would be the same,” Ms. Dung told VietNamNet .
But with the love and patience of his parents, and the absolute support of his family, Son grew up to be more emotional, caring for everyone, knowing how to cry, laugh, and regret when making his mother angry, his father sad... Although his language was difficult, the young man learned to concentrate and meticulously do each task, which is often very difficult for a child with these diseases.
Ms. Dung believes: "Children are like small seedlings. Even though the seedlings have defects and are cared for with love, they will grow slowly but will eventually produce good results." Therefore, she and everyone in the family taught Son the smallest things so that he could practice concentration, self-awareness, and independence, especially in daily behavior and work.
"I teach my child the same way, treat him like a normal child, with discipline, not spoiling him but not beating or scolding him when he makes mistakes," Dung said, teaching her child independent living skills before teaching him to read and write. Parents and siblings also do not do everything for their children but guide them to do it themselves, from changing clothes, personal hygiene to washing dishes, cooking rice, hanging clothes...
One time, when Son was only 7 years old, his mother was busy working and had not had time to cook lunch. Son automatically measured the rice and put it in the pot. Dung was surprised when she discovered it and secretly observed. "The first time, he measured the water level by using his finger, but the next times he didn't have to do that anymore, the rice was very delicious," the happy mother recounted.
She also realized that Son was very attentive in observing what people around him did. "Children with Down syndrome are very observant and pay attention to what others do, and I believe that he and other children can do the same if their parents spend time with them, except for those who are too weak and have to stay in one place," Dung said. Therefore, if she wanted her child to boil vegetables, she took him to the market to buy vegetables, then taught him to pick each stalk, wash them, then put the pot on the stove, turn on the fire...
"You have to be very patient and gentle. At first, my child learned very slowly but gradually got used to it. In the past 18 years, I have only broken one bowl. Now when I see the goods arrive, I know how to help my mother carry, pack, and wrap the goods. When I hear my mother's friends come to visit, I also go down to welcome everyone into the house. I grew up in love, so I respond to everyone with affection," this mother proudly shared.
For a year now, with the encouragement of everyone, Ms. Dung has diligently recorded her son's journey of growth, shared it on social networks, and received millions of interactions. Not only spreading a lot of positive energy, the short clips also contributed to changing the perspective of people with Down syndrome. Many people with children in the same situation left their thanks in the comments section, expressing that these clips have motivated them to take their children out more.
Son used to go to school but then for many reasons, he had to drop out. He likes to write letters, practice writing every day, and talk to people. Sharing with his father while taking care of him at his sickbed, the young man hopes to earn a lot of money to support his parents. As for Dung and her husband, they do not dare to think too far, as long as their child can integrate into the community, care for others, and make progress every day, that is the happiness of the whole family.
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