Colleagues looking for trouble: It's normal to gossip, but it's strange to gossip?

Workplace bullying is a problem that many people believe exists everywhere - Photo: UNPLASH

The article "Going to work to earn money, colleagues want to... cause trouble" posted on Tuoi Tre Online attracted many comments from readers.

Most people say that gossip, bullying, and toxic environments exist everywhere, and some places even create tricks that are worse than gossip.

Where is there no bullying?

According to the account thie****@gmail.com of a reader who is now 70 years old, he used to work for 30 years, experienced 10 different workplaces and most of them were quite famous, but all were very toxic (negative environment - PV).

"You guys have only met groups that talk behind my back, or form groups to isolate me. I was also set up, slandered, and slandered. Even drivers, security guards, parking attendants, and janitors talked badly about me. My attitude is to do my job well, even excellently, and at the same time be open and generous to those who hate me. I greet the janitor, the driver, the janitor... first, even if they are younger.

With superiors, I behave seriously, not flattering or being casual. With the group, I have a relaxed and proactive attitude," this reader advised. The reader also said that in my free time I will read books and newspapers, go to school, not gossip about or speak ill of anyone, and I will not compete for rewards.

"When I returned to take charge of those who had spoken ill of me, I told them that we work for the common good and earn money to support ourselves and our families. I still have many bad habits, so tell me straight. No one dares to speak ill of anyone, everyone works. But unfortunately, every few years or so, my superiors move me to another place, and I speak ill of them again. Now that I have been retired for ten years, hearing my friends complain, I think it is normal, so I am clear whether I am gold or stone," he shared.

Similarly, reader No Name commented that bullying and gossiping in the workplace are old problems. In an environment, if you cannot dissolve, you must integrate, if you cannot do that anymore, you should choose another environment.

"Going to work is not like going to school, so why endure mental violence? Finding a job is like finding a lover, there is no best or worst, only compatibility, if not, change," this person said.

Reader Vinh said he has worked for nearly 20 years, through 5 companies. In his personal opinion, he sees that most people who work wholeheartedly, wholeheartedly, and dedicate themselves to their organizations are often upright, decisive, and have good skills, but are often oppressed, slandered, and defamed.

Therefore, this person thinks that if within a year the supervisor indirectly does not notice and does not handle that situation, then he should leave to find a new career.

It's strange to say good things, but only then can one ignore it.

That is the thought of a reader with a Da Nang account. According to this reader, when going to work, in addition to being good, you should also have a bit of humor, like, whatever people say. Sometimes you get annoyed but try to control it by not pursing your lips, breathing heavily, just smile, keep talking, consider it a very normal thing.

"If someone speaks ill of you, you will be trapped, because they have a whole group on their side. When you are not focused, they will get bored and give up."

As someone who has worked all her life in a government agency and a joint venture company (now retired), reader Nena Pham has noticed that bullying and creating attacks on each other are everywhere, just in a more or less common way.

According to this reader, we should raise more awareness for everyone to condemn this phenomenon in all forms, so that everyone can enjoy a comfortable and happy atmosphere at work, thereby increasing productivity, leading to many better things. "I really hope so!", the reader wrote.

For German readers, the time spent on work takes up a lot of each person's life. Therefore, try to find joy in work to see life always happy, instead of trying to please all colleagues.

This guy believes that if you live by looking at others, you will lose yourself. "Look around with an optimistic spirit and positive energy, then you will realize that life is worth living," he said.

Join in gossip and you will also become a victim.

Admitting that she was born with the "silly gene", reader Nguyen Hoang Lan said that even when she was with friends or colleagues, she often had to hear them gossip about others in the group or in the company, so she realized that there was a high possibility that she would also become the focus of gossip behind her back if she was absent.

"Therefore, I almost don't share anything, from personal and family matters, even the smallest things, and I also limit being too close to anyone. Especially, I am consistent in not having a love affair at work, the principle of communication at work, because the workplace is a place to make money, not a place to find trouble or love or make friends.

If anyone wants to say something, just meet me in person and say it. I will ignore any innuendo or backstabbing," this reader emphasized his point of view.

Source: https://tuoitre.vn/dong-nghiep-kiem-chuyen-noi-xau-la-binh-thuong-noi-tot-moi-la-20241019140236704.htm