GĐXH - On the wedding day, the moment she got into the wedding car to go to her husband's house, the bride burst into tears when she saw that in addition to 700 million VND, her mother also gave her 66 million VND as a dowry.
A bride's post in Fuyang, Anhui Province, China on her wedding day "caused a storm" on social media in the country.
Accordingly, she and her man have been engaged for a long time but have delayed the wedding due to the dowry issue.
There were times when they had set a wedding date but then had to postpone it because the two families could not agree on the dowry.
At first, the bride's family made some requests but the groom's family could not meet them, suggesting only giving a dowry of 200,000 yuan (about 700 million VND).
On the eve of the wedding, the groom's family announced that due to difficult family circumstances, they would not be able to provide a full dowry and banquet.
The bride and her family were extremely disappointed. However, for the sake of their daughter's happiness, her parents decided not to accept the dowry so that the wedding could proceed smoothly.
On the wedding day, the moment she got into the wedding car to go to her husband's house, the bride burst into tears when she saw that in addition to the 200,000 yuan dowry that had been converted into a dowry to be returned to her husband's family, her mother also gave her another 19,000 yuan in cash (about 66 million VND).
Her sister-in-law also gave a very thick envelope.
The bride shed tears because her parents gave her a large dowry on her wedding day.
"This feeling of security can only be brought by blood relatives," said the bride when sharing her story.
It is worth mentioning that this girl's story created a heated debate on social networks about the topic of money and relationships surrounding marriage.
Many netizens think that the bride married the wrong person, criticizing the groom and his family for being too calculating.
They also believe that with the groom's family's attitude, the bride's family spending a lot of money to compensate is not the way to ensure the couple's happiness.
- "It's not good, the husband and his family have bad attitudes, is this kind of upside down wedding really happy? Why do you have to get married? Isn't it better to spend your own money, why do you have to find a man to spend money for you? Is that happier?",
- "Her husband has been invisible all this time? The attitude of her husband's family is also the husband's attitude. What kind of person is taking money from her parents' house and saving it for her husband's family? Do you really think that your husband's family will appreciate you after marriage?"...
Chinese men are afraid to get married because they are afraid of the "bride price"
According to Chinese tradition, before the marriage, the groom's family will prepare some gifts for the bride's family such as money, jewelry, household items, animals, etc. in addition to the dowry.
However, the increasing average dowry is a problem that causes headaches for many families with sons.
In some localities, if the groom's family only has one son, the bride's family will not ask for much dowry. However, if the groom's family has two sons, the bride's family will not be "polite" and can ask for as much as they want.
According to an online survey by a Chinese matchmaking website, nearly 80% of single men consider high bride prices unacceptable.
The increasing average dowry is a problem that causes headaches for many families with sons. Illustrative photo
In June 2013, the first "map" of bride prices in the country of a billion people was published by Sina. Accordingly, the highest bride price was in Shanghai, including a house and 100,000 NDT (14,900 USD).
In Heilongjiang, Jilin, Liaoning, Jiangxi and Qinghai provinces, it is around 500,000 yuan (nearly 75,000 USD); Shandong, Hunan and Zhejiang have a "common price" of 100,000 yuan (14,800 USD), a relatively high figure compared to the total annual per capita income of the people of this country, according to ThinkChina.
Based on a 2014 report from the National Bureau of Statistics of China, the average annual per capita income for urban residents was 27,000 yuan (US$4,020) and 8,900 yuan (US$1,300) for rural residents.
Thus, if the bride's family challenges him to marry 100,000 NDT, an urban Chinese man would have to save money for about 4 years, while a rural man would have to spend more than 12 years, not to mention other fees.
In recent years, bride prices have doubled in many rural areas while annual incomes have increased only slightly.
"Not enough money for the bride price, no marriage" seems to be the general picture of the marriage market in China.
According to many experts, social pressure and demographic issues are the underlying causes driving the "exorbitant" bride price situation in China.
The one-child policy applied by the government of the country of a billion people from 1979 to 2015 left unpredictable consequences, the most obvious being the gender gap when many families only wanted to have boys.
According to a survey by the National Bureau of Statistics of unmarried people over the age of 15 in 2017, there were 4,625 men for every 3,060 women in China, equivalent to a male-to-female ratio of 1.5:1. In 2018, there were about 34 million more men than women, according to The Post.
Worse, the scarcity of rural women due to birth control policies exacerbates the vicious cycle: the poorer the area, the higher the bride price.
In addition, the division of household registration by urban and rural areas has resulted in an increasing number of unmarried men in rural areas and women in big cities.
Marriages that fail due to financial burdens also put pressure on China's demographics, as birth rates continue to decline.
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