GĐXH - The couple is requesting approximately 732 million VND in compensation for the costs of caring for the two children from 2014 to 2024, including food, tuition fees, medical expenses, and extracurricular classes.
A Tran and Tieu Ly (Guangdong, China) got married in 2014. They have two children and live with A Tran's parents, Mr. and Mrs. Ly.
Due to disagreements with her husband about their lifestyles and work commitments, A Tran left home in July 2020, leaving her two children in the care of their paternal grandparents.
Following unsuccessful attempts at reconciliation, A Tran and Tieu Ly divorced in October 2022.
The court ruled that each parent would have custody of one child, but A Tran failed to fulfill this obligation. Both children continued to live with Mr. and Mrs. Ly.
In January 2024, Mr. and Mrs. Li sued A Zhen, demanding compensation of over 210,000 yuan (approximately 732 million VND) for the costs of caring for the two children from 2014 to 2024, including food, tuition, medical expenses, and extracurricular classes.
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After receiving the lawsuit, the Huicheng District Court in Huizhou City, Guangdong Province, reviewed the case and decided not to accept the claim for compensation for the period from April 2014 to June 2020, when the entire family was still living together.
For the period from July 2020 to October 2022, A Tran and Tieu Ly each had to pay 2,000 yuan per month, totaling 54,000 yuan (approximately over 188 million VND) each.
After the divorce, from October 2022 to March 2024, A Tran had to pay child support for her second child, totaling 34,000 yuan (approximately 118.5 million VND).
In total, A Tran had to pay her former in-laws 88,000 yuan (over 306 million VND) for child support.
According to the court, both A Tran and Tieu Ly failed to fulfill their statutory obligations, while Mr. and Mrs. Ly, despite having no statutory obligation or agreement to care for the grandchildren, actively did so. They have the right to demand that their former son and daughter-in-law reimburse them for necessary expenses.
The published information about the incident has sparked a debate about child-rearing responsibilities after divorce and the role of grandparents in caring for grandchildren in modern society.
Many people agreed with the verdict: "That's the right punishment; they gave birth but couldn't raise the child, then shifted the responsibility to the grandparents," "Both husband and wife are irresponsible when they have a child"...
Grandparents taking care of their grandchildren is not an obligation.
There have been many stories like this throughout history. Parents are busy, so they have to rely on grandparents to look after their children.
However, many parents demand too much from this "babysitting" service, viewing it as a responsibility and obligation of parents towards their children.
If the grandparents don't help, they get upset; if they do help, they sit and calculate and consider everything, and there are always points they don't like, which they then criticize and complain about.
Many parents demand too much from this "babysitting" service, viewing it as a responsibility and obligation of parents towards their children. (Illustrative image)
Before considering that, perhaps parents should answer the question of whether grandparents are truly responsible for their grandchildren's care and supervision.
When a couple has a child, their primary responsibility for the child rests with them. They must take care of all aspects of the child's life. This includes carefully considering who will care for the child after the mother returns to work.
When parents reach old age, it's time for them to rest after years of caring for their own children. When grandchildren arrive, the responsibility for them doesn't fall solely on the grandparents.
For years they were busy with their children, and in their old age they are busy with their children's children. So when will they ever get to rest?
Especially when some children completely shift the responsibility of caring for their grandchildren to their grandparents, taking advantage of them and making demands, criticizing and showing displeasure if things don't go their way.
It's their choice for grandparents to take care of their grandchildren. At their age, they have every right to rest, travel , and participate in senior citizen activities.
For them, they have the right to choose whether or not to care for their child out of love, and of course, it's not a mandatory obligation.
Parents have responsibilities towards their children, and they should also keep in mind that they shouldn't bother grandparents too much.
Grandparents helping with childcare is precious and đáng trân trọng (worthy of respect). Even if they can't help, we should still accept it happily.
If you're unhappy with how your grandparents are taking care of the children, then rearrange your schedule and take over that responsibility yourself.
Don't demand that others do things for you when they are not obligated to, and don't exploit your parents to lighten your burden.
Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/ngo-ngang-vi-bi-bo-me-chong-doi-tien-trong-chau-sau-ly-hon-172250313164132822.htm
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