Knowing that his wife is raising a small child, my husband still listens to his mother and forces his wife to do it.
My husband and I have been living together for 3 years but have not had a wedding yet. Partly because my mother passed away suddenly close to the wedding day so we had to cancel it, partly because my mother-in-law suddenly changed her attitude towards me.
It is true that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should live separately, because if they live together, they will always have conflicts. In the past, my mother-in-law loved me very much, she treated me gently like her own daughter. But after living together for a while, both sides started to argue, they did not like each other so their mouths kept coming out to argue.
Because I am a descendant, I usually put up with my mother-in-law and don't argue back. However, sometimes she scolds me unreasonably, and I don't want to be wrongly accused, so I react to her. So my mother-in-law goes around saying that her daughter-in-law is "rude", looks down on her husband's family, and is stubborn.
Many times I asked my husband to give me some advice and help my mother, to help me mediate so that the relationship between the two women in the house would be less bad. However, both my husband and father-in-law are not psychologically sound people. They both waved their hands and said that they would let it be, not wanting to interfere in "women's affairs".
My mother-in-law is increasingly showing her conservatism and nitpicking. Her advantage is that she is clean and tidy, but her disadvantage is that she is too overbearing, like forcing people to be clean exactly as she wants, for example, if they don't wash their dishes right away after eating, she gets extremely annoyed. Guests who come to visit and are sitting down to eat are surprised when my mother-in-law clears away all the dirty dishes, they haven't finished eating, and the leftover fish and meat are thrown straight into the trash. When people give her feedback, she says "it's messy and annoying", so the guests are upset and never come back again.
Relatives and acquaintances know my mother-in-law's personality so they also avoid her. My husband's cousin even said that I am a "brave heroine", daring to be the daughter-in-law of the "iron lady". Even my father-in-law does not dare to disobey his wife. Outside, he can call the shots, but at home, his wife is number one. All arrangements in the house must be done by my mother-in-law, she tells them to put things in the right place.
Apart from being extremely clean, my mother-in-law doesn't care much about other things. So I was able to patiently live with her for 3 years.
Sometimes I regret it, thinking that if I hadn't listened to my father-in-law's advice to register my marriage right away, I would have been able to leave without fear of any obligations. But oh well, every woman wants to keep her family peaceful.
However, the tree wants to be still but the wind never stops. The more I give in, the more my mother-in-law takes advantage of me. She is increasingly unreasonable with me, but proudly shows off to outsiders that she is "disciplining her daughter-in-law properly".
I no longer have a biological mother so I have no emotional support. I cannot go back to my maternal grandparents to cry to my father so I can only grit my teeth and endure at my husband's house.
I want to find a way to free myself but I haven't been able to.
My child is still too young, just a few months old. I have to wait until he is stronger and I have saved more money before I can feel secure being a single mother.
Thinking so, but fate did not let me wait until then. Yesterday I had a reason to decide to leave my husband's family.
The story is that my husband's parents recently sold their old house to get the money to split between my husband and his younger brother. The house and land were sold at a high price, so they had plenty of money, so my husband immediately decided to buy a 2-bedroom apartment of over 50 square meters on installments.
I had no money so I didn't contribute anything. Knowing my mother-in-law's personality, I didn't dare say anything. When my parents told me to move, I went along.
Since I moved to the apartment, I no longer have the habit of going to the market to buy things, because there is no local market around. There is only one supermarket at the foot of the building, so I have to carry a basket down to buy things twice a week.
At first, my mother-in-law didn't say anything. But then she accidentally saw my grocery shopping record, which showed that I spent about 3 million VND per week, including food, drinks, miscellaneous items, diapers, milk for my baby, and other necessities.
She was not happy with that, thinking that I spent too much money, did not know how to save, did not love my husband, did not plan for the future...
In general, she criticized me with 7749 rather harsh reasons. I explained that everything I bought was reasonable, nothing was superfluous. Moreover, I bought for the whole family of 5, nothing was for my own use, so it was unfair for my mother to blame me like that.
Unexpectedly, my mother-in-law accused her daughter-in-law of being spoiled, wanting to dominate her mother-in-law, and plotting to take advantage of her husband's money. I had a headache so I stopped trying to explain myself and let my mother-in-law say whatever she wanted.
Then in the evening when my husband came home, he suddenly told me that from this month onwards he would no longer give me any living expenses because he "spent all his money carelessly". I argued with him until I burst into tears, and then I discovered that the house's wifi was gone. My mother-in-law's voice came from the bedroom, saying that from now on there was no need to use the internet anymore, she didn't want her son to waste money on internet while her daughter-in-law stayed home watching movies and surfing the internet.
Okay. Since they are so heartless, I can't stand it anymore. My whole family treats me like trash, why should I care about this family? I will remember all the suffering and injustice at this time. I will start my life over even if I have to face countless difficulties. I just feel sorry for my child, his family was broken right after he was born because of his father and grandmother's selfishness...
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