Top sentences that seem affectionate and generous but are actually causing the relationship to crack.
“What would a boyfriend’s mother with low EQ (emotional intelligence) be like?” - a topic being shared on social networks that has received a lot of attention from netizens. According to the experience shared by many girls, right from the first time meeting their boyfriend’s family, if they receive these 5 questions and advice, they should “break up early” to avoid suffering. Staying away is also a way to protect yourself.
I am so lucky to know your daughter. She is very obedient, she gives all the money she earns to her mother to keep.
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A saying that many mothers often use to praise their sons and gain points in the eyes of their girlfriends (possibly future daughters-in-law) is actually “counterproductive”. The article “Only mothers-in-law with low emotional intelligence do these 3 things” clearly shows that women with low EQ often like to show off, even flatter their sons and daughters. Moreover, this also implies that parents rate you one level lower (or more) than their sons.
“It’s not wrong that he’s a good guy. Better than you, even better. But if your mother-in-law says that, it means she doesn’t appreciate you,” a netizen shared. In this case, instead of praising her son, the mother-in-law should give priority to her girlfriend. This makes the girl feel more respected and loved instead of constantly praising her son.
Furthermore, a girl will have certain reservations and concerns if she intends to go further with a guy who is controlled too much by his mother, especially regarding salary.
She and her daughter-in-law do all the housework, so the father and son don't have to do anything.
An An said she broke up with her boyfriend of a year after she came to meet her parents. She said her boyfriend's mother was very kind. She cared about her, so she ate well and told her son not to bully his girlfriend. Until mealtime. She observed that the men in the house were all sitting on the sofa watching movies or chatting, and only came out when her mother and pregnant sister-in-law invited them to eat. At first, she thought it was because she was busy entertaining guests, but during mealtime, her boyfriend's mother's words immediately disillusioned her: "You and your daughter-in-law do all the housework, your father and son don't have to do anything."
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She immediately thought about what her future would be like if she married into this family. She saw herself doing all the housework, and her boyfriend took it for granted. He didn't care or have any intention of helping. She suddenly remembered that during the whole year they were in love, he had never cooked, or even served her food.
After sharing this story on social media, many people supported her decision. Because marriage is a lifelong thing, so you should choose someone who can accompany and support each other.
You wear a lot of makeup, this dress must be expensive.
The phrase shows concern in a somewhat negative way, even prying. Therefore, on social networks, there are often many topics asking: "Should I wear heavy makeup or what clothes should I wear when meeting my boyfriend's family for the first time?" that many people are interested in.
However, according to QQ, it is understandable that older people often like girls to wear light makeup and dress modestly. However, "subtle reminders" about appearance more or less make the other person feel uncomfortable, even uncomfortable. "Anyway, helping the children feel comfortable when meeting the new family is the right thing to do. It is not right to show it right in front of their eyes when you don't like it yourself. It shows that you have low EQ ," a netizen shared.
I sincerely advise women to focus on their families.
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A woman who has been married for 1 year shared the top quotes from parents in the first meeting that you should consider: "I sincerely advise, women should focus on their family". Accordingly, she said that right from the first meeting, her boyfriend's mother advised her to stay home after marriage and focus on taking care of the children. Initially, seeing that her boyfriend's family was well-off, her mother-in-law was understanding, so she agreed to settle down. However, after less than 1 year of marriage, she regretted it. Because her mother-in-law was too controlling and controlling of her spending. Moreover, she was always considered a parasite in the house.
What do you do, how much is your monthly salary, do you have savings….?
It is not uncommon for a boyfriend or girlfriend to receive questions about salary, savings, and job position from his mother, aunt, or uncle when he first comes home. Many parents often think that these questions show concern, but this has the opposite effect.
Many girls said they felt uncomfortable. They even did not want to answer these questions because they were too private. Even when they were too close, or even with their parents or siblings, they did not want to answer.
Tran Ha
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