Students 'prevent' parents from showing off grades on social media

Many students "prevent" parents from showing off their children's scores on social networks

As scheduled, at the end of the year, when the school year is summarized at all levels, social networks are bustling with the movement of showing off children, showing off scores, showing off certificates and achievements during the school year. Currently, the time of announcing the 10th grade exam scores, the 10th grade specialized and integrated standard scores in Ho Chi Minh City, the movement of showing off children has started to become lively again. However, this year, there is also a newer phenomenon when on social networks Zalo and Facebook, there are groups "preventing" parents from showing off their children's scores online. Is it true that students are now more aware of their personal rights and privacy rights?

What do students say about parents who like to "show off their grades" and "worship Facebook"?

Nguyen Thi Hoai Ni, a student in class 11A13 at Tran Van Giau High School, Binh Thanh District, Ho Chi Minh City, said that in some cases, parents showing off their children's report cards will cause other parents to put pressure on their children, making students even more burdened by peer pressure.

"Many people think that peer pressure comes from posts boasting about achievements on social networks, but in fact, putting pressure on children is the choice of each parent. Instead of comforting, encouraging, accompanying, and understanding their children, they choose to do the opposite. They pressure and force their children into a framework, into a model that they consider good, thinking that doing so will be good, without knowing or caring about their children's feelings," said Hoai Ni.

Hoai Ni said she herself was once a victim of peer pressure. But luckily, her parents just sat silently listening to others boast about their children, without scolding or disparaging their child. This gave her more motivation to try harder. "I tried to achieve high results and good grades so that my parents could be proud of me. This was not to show off my grades online, but because I wanted to make my parents happy for me," Hoai Ni confided.

Every exam season comes, and it's time to show off your children on social media.

Positive signs show students are more aware of their rights

Lawyer Le Trung Phat, Director of Le Trung Phat Law Firm, Ho Chi Minh City Bar Association, said that for a long time, many parents have been showing off their children's grades and achievements on social networks and think it is normal to gain pride from the online community. However, parents are forgetting that this affects their children's rights and privacy, causing harm to other students and families.

"When middle and high school students are now aware of that, they want their parents not to interfere more deeply with their scores, "preventing" their parents from showing off their children's scores online, that is a good perception. It proves that they have been educated in school and positively influenced by advanced cultures and education in the world," said lawyer Le Trung Phat.

However, according to lawyer Phat, it is not advisable for students to speak up by creating groups on social networks, "preventing" or "forbidding" their parents from showing off their scores, because the people they want to speak up for are their parents. By creating groups like this, will their opinions reach the parents?

At the same time, according to lawyer Phat, social media groups have more or less side topics, which are not necessarily entirely positive. Therefore, students can completely express their opinions frankly to their parents.

"The most important thing to regulate behavior is direct interaction between those in need, those who are behaving in a way that is considered to affect their rights. Children have the right to express their opinions to their parents, and parents have the responsibility to listen, share, understand, and respect their children's rights. It may be difficult for children to speak up to their parents because they are children, but we encourage them to share directly and frankly with their parents in real life. Besides confiding in words, children can share with their parents by letter or text message, for example," said Director of Le Trung Phat Law Firm, Ho Chi Minh City Bar Association.

High school seniors are under more pressure from parents showing off their grades on social media.

Potential consequences of showing off scores

Master Le Van Nam, teacher at Tran Van Giau High School, Binh Thanh District, Ho Chi Minh City, co-author of the book series "Cat's Story" about peer pressure in students - awarded second prize at the national level in the "Students with Startup Ideas 5th" contest, said that the more society advances and technology becomes stronger, the more parents showing off their children's scores needs to be considered a serious problem that must be thoroughly handled.

Firstly, parents showing off their test scores on social media creates jealousy and psychological pressure on students who do not achieve high results. By making their scores public, students are put in a situation of comparison and feel inferior about their abilities. Showing off their scores on social media leads to comparison and evaluation of each student's personal value based on their scores. This creates an unhealthy competitive situation and leads to comparing students' performance simply through their scores.

Second, showing off test scores on social media takes away from students’ privacy. The trend of showing off test scores on social media hinders the educational process and misdirects the goal. Instead of focusing on honing skills, exploring interests and personal development, students can be drawn into the race for scores and only focus on test results. This puts a lot of pressure on them, not ensuring that the learning process is a useful and enjoyable experience.

"Next, showing off scores can create self-esteem and pride, promoting arrogance and a mindset that focuses on personal achievement. This undermines the value of modesty, humility and compassion in society. Students may be looked down upon or underestimated by others when they look at their scores, rather than based on their personal qualities and abilities.

And more seriously, when parents show off their children's scores online, personal information such as scores can be misused or exploited by improper individuals or organizations, leading to negative impacts on the students themselves, causing unnecessary trouble," Master Le Van Nam told Thanh Nien Newspaper reporters.

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