Vo Hoang Khanh - Nguyen Thi Thuy Duong and their two daughters travel together - Photo: NVCC
I will choose to take the initiative to make peace first, admit my mistake to ease the tension between us, and also to make my wife feel less hurt because no one defends her. Only then will the family be peaceful and the children will be filial.
Mr. VO HOANG KHANH
The story of the two young families below is certainly the common desire of many other families when working together to preserve family traditions.
Respect and work together
His wife is Nguyen Thi Thuy Duong - Party cell secretary of Hamlet 2, Binh Chanh Commune (Binh Chanh District, Ho Chi Minh City), and her husband is Vo Hoang Khanh - an official at Binh Chanh District Hospital. Talking about building a happy family, Ms. Thuy Duong believes that it requires sharing from both sides, trust and respect for each other, and mutual care and raising of children.
Ms. Duong said that her husband always helps her with the childcare and housework. "In the afternoon, whoever comes home early will cook dinner. We have two daughters, so each of us will pick up and drop off one child. The school is also convenient for both of us to go to work. If one of us has something urgent to do, we can let the other person help pick up and drop off the child," Thuy Duong said.
Living with her mother-in-law, Thuy Duong's life as a daughter-in-law is quite comfortable. Her grandmother is also a great helper with housework, helping take care of her two grandchildren because both husband and wife work all day, sometimes even on weekends. Duong is also skillful in asking her mother-in-law for advice on everything, so the house is always filled with laughter between mother and child, grandmother and grandchildren.
Having known each other from participating in local Youth Union activities, the couple sympathized with each other's work, and it was not difficult for them to share and support each other in childcare. Ms. Duong works for the Party, so she often has activities on the weekends. At those times, her husband takes care of the childcare. In return, when her husband is on a business trip, his wife arranges her work to take care of this.
But dishes still collide, let alone husband and wife, so sometimes husband and wife argue over small conflicts. And tolerance is the secret to keeping family harmony.
Mr. Khanh shared that when a couple has an argument or conflict in handling housework and no one is willing to give in, from the perspective of a husband, father and pillar of the family, he will not let the argument become more difficult to resolve, especially when there is no winner or loser between the couple.
Couple Nguyen Duy Chinh - Ngo Hai Yen share together in taking care of their twin sons - Photo: NVCC
Caring and asking about each other is also a way for husband and wife to build a happy family together. When we are young, our egos are quite big, so it is easy to get angry. For me, everything will be resolved when the love for each other is big enough. This helps us just want our partner to balance between home and work.
Ms. NGO HAI YEN
Give each other quality "family time"
The couple Nguyen Duy Chinh - Ngo Hai Yen will be honored as outstanding young families at the city level in Ho Chi Minh City this year. Hai Yen is currently the deputy secretary of the Phu Nhuan District Youth Union, while Duy Chinh works at the Phu Nhuan District Military Command.
As a Youth Union officer, Hai Yen often comes home quite late from work. Sometimes, when she gets home, her twin sons are already fast asleep thanks to their father rocking them to sleep. She leaves early and comes home late, but thanks to her husband's understanding, sympathy, and support, Yen is somewhat at ease at work.
Has your husband ever complained about you going out too much? Hai Yen honestly said that sometimes her husband complains a little, but he is the one who arranges his work and helps take care of the children so that Yen can fulfill her duties as a Youth Union officer.
Taking care of a baby is also a challenge for Yen and her husband to love each other and their children. The twin boys were born prematurely, so taking care of them is a bit more difficult. "Taking care of two children at the same time is hard, sometimes we don't have the same views on taking care of children, so there are some disagreements. But both husband and wife agree to choose what is best for the children and then do it together" - Yen said.
When asked about the "secret" to building a happy family, since this young family has been recognized as a typical cultural family for many years, Hai Yen smiled and said that there is actually no secret. It's just that husband and wife have to take care of and raise their children together, support each other with housework when one of them is busy with work. But no matter how busy they are, they always remember to set aside time for their family on the weekends.
It is this commitment that makes both husband and wife try to arrange time to take their children out on the weekends to strengthen their relationship. "We have to spend quality 'family time' together because everyone's work is so busy that the time family members can see each other is sometimes not much during the day" - Yen said.
So no matter how busy they are, the couple always reminds each other to come home and have family meals. Those seemingly short moments are when the members can be together after a day of work. And that is the truly quality "family time" the whole family spends together.
Source: https://tuoitre.vn/cung-cham-cay-hanh-phuc-gia-dinh-20240628084432138.htm
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