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I have a friend who, when she was young, had long legs, white skin, a pretty face, and a well-off family. She even had a house for rent in the inner city, the rent was about 200 million VND a year. At first, when she wanted to marry her boyfriend, her parents strongly opposed it, the reason was very simple, that the boyfriend's family was not trustworthy. There were families whose sons were getting married but their parents were still burdened with a pile of debt, and the family had no money, and they even spent tens of millions on worshiping and praying.
Second, the other son is only an average student and works for his uncle. His uncle is about to retire so he could be unemployed at any time.
My friend was determined to get married, the reason given was also very simple, he treated his children very well. How well? His salary was 5 million a month but he tried to save up to buy a designer bag for his girlfriend. When going out to eat, his girlfriend just sat there and enjoyed, her boyfriend served her drinks and tissues, and he even peeled shrimp for her to eat.
Before, because her parents put too much pressure on her, my friend also suggested breaking up once, but at that time, her boyfriend was on his knees with tears and snot all over his face, begging her not to leave him, so my friend softened, feeling that no one in this life would love her like this guy again. Despite her family's wholehearted advice, introducing her to many people with better conditions, she didn't care, and focused on that boyfriend.
After so many years, she finally got married.
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The Difference Between Love and Marriage
The first few years after marriage, the couple's life was quite happy, the wife's parents bought her a house, her husband also loved and took care of her every little thing. The couple's combined income was also stable, they spent all they earned and did not save anything, they often invited each other to eat out, date, travel and take pictures to post on their personal pages. Moreover, both of them were handsome, standing next to each other looked very beautiful, like a pair of fairies.
Until she gave birth, because her husband's family was poor, if he didn't work, he wouldn't have food to eat, so his parents couldn't come and look after the baby. My friend's family had two sisters, and her parents were also looking after her sister's baby, so my friend had to do everything herself. Her husband felt sorry for his wife, working and looking after the baby at the same time, so he told her to quit her job and stay home to take care of the baby, and let him earn the money.
It's easy to say, but hard to do. Because of his lack of education, if he quit his job at your company, my friend's husband would have a hard time finding a decent job. His salary is low, his wife doesn't work so she doesn't get a salary, she has to raise a child, and she doesn't have any savings, so the family's finances are very unstable.
In addition, the husband is just like his parents, a soldier's son with a mandarin's temperament, always spending more than he can afford. For example, when he sees that the food his wife buys is not fresh, he will say it's not delicious and ask his wife to buy fresher food, it doesn't matter if it's expensive. If his wife says she doesn't have money, he will say don't think so much, just buy it, I'll earn money later.
It was nice to say, but the husband didn't have any money, and often had to use credit cards or borrow from friends to make ends meet. Gradually, his friends stopped lending him money, and my friend went home to ask her parents for money. But even that was not enough to live on, so my friend unconsciously learned to save money and started complaining about her husband's wasteful spending. For example, when he bought a designer bag, his wife was no longer as happy as before and even scolded her husband.
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At first, her husband coaxed her, constantly painting a bright future, but gradually he became annoyed and frustrated, every time he came home, his wife would sing the song of money, money, money, in her eyes there was only money. Because of his dream of making a lot of money, he quit his job at his uncle's company and started his own company. But because of his personality of having to be the best at everything, and also his lack of business sense, he borrowed money at high interest rates to maintain the company, as a result, he could not survive, and when their son turned 6, the company went bankrupt. The rent was still given by his wife's parents to live on.
At this time, other people would have divorced a long time ago, but my friend did not. It was simple, her husband knelt down and begged, crying and complaining, asking her to give him a chance. Because of her husband's sweet words, the couple separated, the husband went to work in one place to earn money, the wife went to another place to take care of the children. With no money in hand, both miserable and tired, every time she asked her husband for money, the two argued. Only then did she remember the men who had pursued her in the past, the good ones had their own companies listed on the stock exchange, the bad ones were from well-off families, with stable jobs. But once the arrow was shot, there was no turning back, my friend had to put all her hopes on her husband, hoping that her job would be successful, and her life would become better.
The result was the opposite, her husband became more and more like his parents-in-law, not only did he not earn any money but also spent money like water. What was more painful was that he had an affair, the "mistress" was a rich woman 6 years older than him. He also blamed everything on his wife, saying that being with her was a lot of pressure, his feelings for her had long since faded. At this time, my friend cried and divorced, holding her child and leaving empty-handed. Luckily, her parents were still good, they welcomed their daughter home, helped my friend take care of her child, took her to school, and my friend also went back to work. No one dared to mention her ex-husband in front of her, her parents were worried, wanted to introduce more partners for their daughter, but my friend's heart was now completely cold, obsessed with marriage, and refused to agree to any more blind dates.
Don't ruin your life because of blind love.
Through my friend's story, I want to remind young single people a few things.
First, choose someone with the same education and abilities as you.
Second, it is true that marriage must have love as the foundation, but economics are equally important. If your economy is not stable, do not rush into marriage.
Third, it is not that you cannot choose someone whose economic conditions are worse than yours, but you have to look at the qualities and personality of that person. Maybe they are having a hard time now, but they have the will to strive and make efforts for the future of both of you, talk less and do more, so you can rest assured to build a life with that person.
And finally, parents' opinions are very important. The parent who chooses may not be right, but the parent who objects is definitely right, my friend.
Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/nhin-ban-than-tra-gia-dat-cho-cuoc-hon-nhan-toi-tham-thia-4-nguyen-tac-khi-muon-lay-chong-dac-biet-dieu-thu-4-khong-the-khong-nghe-172240520203107404.htm
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