(Dan Tri) - I really don't understand my husband. He has completely changed after we got married.
Before we got married, he was always thoughtful and attentive, remembering every holiday and anniversary, even just a normal day could turn into a special occasion to surprise me.
On my birthday, he carefully prepared cakes, roses, and gifts. On Valentine's Day, he never let me feel sad, there were always flowers, gifts, and sweet messages that made me happy. I believe that I have found a wonderful man who will always love and cherish me.
However, less than a year after we got married, everything changed dramatically. On our first Valentine's Day after our wedding, I eagerly awaited it, telling myself that he would definitely have something surprising for me.
All day long, I anxiously stared at my phone, waiting for a loving text from my husband, or some sign that he was planning something special. But there was nothing.
That night, I told myself that maybe he wanted to create a bigger surprise, waiting until late at night to give me the gift. But no, when the clock moved past midnight, I bitterly realized that he had completely forgotten this day. Not a single greeting, not a single gesture of concern. I was so angry that I wanted to cry, but I could only silently turn my face to the wall and sleep, my heart filled with disappointment.
I had prepared a gift for him, a watch that I had carefully selected. But at that time, I no longer wanted to give it to him. I stuffed it into the corner of the cupboard, wondering if I had expected too much?
The same thing happened this past Tet. In the past, every time Tet came, he would prepare small lucky money envelopes for me, small but meaningful gifts. One year, he even gave me a beautiful red ao dai, saying that he wanted me to be beautiful on the first day of the year. But this year, as husband and wife, I received nothing.
He still goes shopping, buys gifts for both sets of parents, takes good care of the family, but I don't have any attention. I don't ask for expensive gifts, but at least a little attention is enough to make me feel loved.
I began to feel frustrated, disappointed, and sad. Is it possible that once married, a woman is no longer as worthy of respect as when she was a lover? Is marriage the end of romance?
I confided this to a close friend, she just smiled sadly and said: "All men are like that, once married, everything becomes an obligation, no longer something they have to strive for." I didn't want to believe it, but looking back at what was happening, I couldn't help but think that maybe she was right.
I am not the type of person who likes to ask for things, and I am not a materialistic person. All I want is a little care, a little love.
If he was really busy, a sweet text message, a gentle hug or simply a wish on special days would be enough to warm my heart. But it seems like he doesn't care about those things anymore.
He is still a good husband in the true sense of the word: no drinking, no gambling, no indifference when it comes to cooking, but I still feel like something is missing.
I miss the old days, the feeling of being pampered, the surprise, the excitement every holiday season. Now, it's all just a faint feeling.
I tried talking to him about this. I told him that I felt sad that he no longer remembered the special days. But he just smiled and said, "We are husband and wife, so formalities don't matter."
That answer made me sad. I don't need formalities, I just need to feel loved. Why could he do it before, but not now?
I wonder: Are all men like that? Or is it just my husband? I don't expect expensive gifts, just a little care, a little special feeling in my marriage.
Am I asking for too much? Or am I just expecting too much for a love that will last forever like it did in the beginning?
I don't know what to do anymore. I don't want to be the wife who complains or blames her husband all day long. But I also can't accept a bland marriage, where the romance is gradually forgotten over time.
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