Understanding yourself is finding the way to happiness

Ms. Bui Thi Ha (Hai Phong) has always felt that life has not treated her fairly. She tries very hard, strives in her work many times more than others, but in the eyes of her husband, relatives... she is just a woman with no value. That is why she always has to look at the eyes and attitudes of others to live.

She was afraid of judgment, lacked self-confidence, was shy, and did not dare to do or decide many things in her daily life. "I often avoided and hid behind problems without daring to solve them. Whenever a difficult situation arose, I felt confused, and all I did was stay silent, waiting for something good to come to me. I did not dare to stand up and speak my mind, did not dare to ask for what I wanted," Ms. Ha shared.

Ms. Ha’s story is just one of hundreds of stories of people who have not yet realized that they deserve a full, meaningful and happy life. Fears and limiting beliefs have made them forget themselves, forget that they need to be loved, that they need to live as themselves.

To understand happiness correctly and live a meaningful life, on October 12-13, 2024, in Hanoi, about 1,500 people from many provinces and cities across the country will participate in the program "Building a new life - The road to happiness".

Ms. Le Ngoc Han (Hai Phong) said that in the past, she had many problems with her husband, children, and parents. Living a life of blaming and not taking responsibility, whenever she encountered a problem, she blamed her husband for not caring or her parents for not taking care of her. In addition, whenever she taught her children, the family only heard scolding and harsh words. When her children had something wrong, whether right or wrong, they were forced to apologize first without knowing the reason. But after learning about the teachings on the mind, Ms. Han found a way to heal herself to create a harmonious family.

" I realized that everything is up to me, I have to take 100% responsibility for every problem that comes to me. My parents have given me this life, that is already very lucky, so I cannot ask for anything. I also understand that the way to change my husband and children is to become a good person first, I have to transform, I have to become a role model for my husband and children to look up to and change according to me, not that I expect them to change, or that they have to do this or that according to my will ," Ms. Han said.

Master of Educational Sciences, senior psychotherapist Nguyen Thi Lanh said that each person is born as a separate entity, converging completely different personalities, potentials, and qualities. Therefore, each person will have a different life to fully exploit what they possess and move towards a more perfect, excellent version. Everyone has advantages and talents that only they understand best. Therefore, what needs to be done is to learn to understand yourself to love yourself again.

"To find happiness, the most important thing is to understand yourself and realize that happiness is always available within you. Many people hang their happiness on other people's trees, but the reality is that only when we ourselves are happy can we create a happy life" - expert Nguyen Thi Lanh shared.

According to psychologist Nguyen Thi Lanh, what you need to do is learn to understand yourself to love yourself again.

In addition, psychologist Nguyen Thi Lanh believes that understanding yourself is also to create a happier, more excellent person. Because that is the journey of "finding yourself". Each person needs to find out why each person becomes the current version. At the same time, there needs to be a method to heal the inner self and understand oneself, release negative emotions, heal relationships with oneself and those around, learn to appreciate and be grateful for everything in life to always be peaceful and happy.

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