Many people feel frustrated with the messages 'hey friend', 'hey sister' and then wait forever without seeing the next content. This type of seemingly harmless texting is sometimes more annoying than many people think.
Messages that annoy many people - Illustration photo generated by AI
Why is this way of texting so annoying? How can we communicate more effectively via text?
Frustrated because I keep waiting for more messages
Every day, connecting and exchanging work via text messages and social networks, Ms. Nguyen Thi Bich Thuy (38 years old) has often encountered situations where messages are just "sister", "em oi" and then disappear.
Some people send a message and then stay silent, some say "hey sis" and then start typing, making the recipient wait in frustration.
"Many times when I'm busy, I see a message notification and quickly check it because I think it's urgent. But when I open it, I only see "sister" and then stop, or I see the other person is typing a message and hasn't finished yet, it feels very uncomfortable," Ms. Thuy shared.
Working at a coffee shop, Thu Thao (22 years old) is both a bartender and a customer service employee. She often has to take advantage of every minute to respond to messages because she has a close friend who always texts "Thao" and then disappears for a few hours before returning to text again.
On social networks, many people expressed their frustration with this type of unfinished texting. "If you have something to ask, why don't you just ask it all?", "I hate this type of texting and then being silent"... are common complaints.
Messages that only say "anh oi" or "chi oi" not only annoy the recipient but also make the sender easily ignored, even leaving a bad impression.
Tam (22 years old, Ho Chi Minh City) shared: "Receiving a message that doesn't explain the whole story clearly, I find it confusing and have to consider whether to reply or not. Sending a message without getting straight to the point shows a lack of professionalism, as if the sender doesn't really put their heart into the conversation."
BU (21 years old) admitted that he often starts his messages with a "probing" tone because he is shy and afraid of disturbing others. "Only when I receive a response do I start explaining the specific reason for sending the message. If the other person doesn't respond, I just keep quiet," BU said.
Meanwhile, XV (18 years old) - a first-year student - has a habit of texting "anh oi" first because he thinks he needs an introductory greeting before getting to the point. "I text that so they can see the message and reply when they have time," V. shared.
Thu Thao had to respond to messages intermittently during working hours, sometimes feeling restless and anxious because of worry - Photo: PHAN NGUYEN
Clear communication is needed.
Speaking to Tuoi Tre Online , Dr. Le Thi Ngoc Lan - lecturer of the Department of Educational Psychology, University of Education (University of Da Nang) - said: "Many young people are afraid to ask questions to older people because they worry 'will my question bother them?', or 'will they be willing to answer?'. In addition, some people are not equipped with adequate communication skills, leading to a lack of confidence."
However, the perspective of the message recipient also needs to be considered. "When receiving messages like 'teacher' or 'teacher' without seeing the specific content, many people will feel confused because they do not know what the sender needs. The incoming message means work is interrupted, creating a waiting mentality," Dr. Ngoc Lan analyzed.
According to experts, young people need to practice communication skills to overcome their shyness. "When texting, say hello and present the problem immediately, instead of just sending a short sentence and waiting for a response. If you don't receive a response, you can text back politely. When you see a complete and clear message, people with good intentions will definitely respond," Dr. Ngoc Lan advised.
Source: https://tuoitre.vn/kho-chiu-voi-nhung-tin-nhan-kieu-ban-oi-chi-oi-roi-im-ru-20250306125711165.htm
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