Ms. Song, 61 years old, recently called her children and announced that she and her husband decided to divorce.
Ms. Song's daughter knew from a very early age that there were many conflicts between her parents, but what she did not expect was that the difficult days of the past had passed, and now that the children had grown up, there was no longer any pressure or restraint, so she chose to divorce.
“When I wanted to get a divorce, the younger generation found it hard to accept. They thought that if the relationship was not good, it would be better to get a divorce when you were young, instead of getting a divorce at this age. However, how can age be used to determine divorce?” Ms. Song said.
After all, there were many factors that helped Song and her husband persevere until now, but now they can no longer continue.
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Why choose divorce when over 60 years old?
In the old generation, divorce was a very bad thing.
Many young people today may not realize that when we were young, our thinking was actually very old-fashioned and conservative. At that time, divorce was a big deal and a very bad thing. Moreover, most of the girl's parents did not approve of their daughter's divorce because they were afraid of being gossiped about by the neighbors and villagers.
So when they are young, even if they have the idea of divorce, they do not have the courage to choose.
For the children should endure
In fact, many people want to persevere for the sake of their children when their marriage fails. Ms. Song said that she and her husband had argued a lot since having children, and that her husband was cold and even beat her. At that time, Ms. Song felt miserable and uncomfortable, and even thought about going back to her parents' house and never going back to her husband's house again.
“Before I could even step out the door, my child ran after me, crying and screaming: Mom, don’t go! My heart was broken and I thought, what would happen to my child if I really left? So I had to swallow my words and continue living my life,” Ms. Song shared.
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Children are grown, old people think about the life they want to live
Now that the children are grown, Song and her husband do not need to live together forcedly.
“We used to stay together for the sake of our children, but now that they are grown, we want to separate and live the life we want. Even if we are alone, at least we won’t be sad all the time,” Ms. Song said.
The environment that the older generation lived in at that time was relatively conservative, even if they were unhappy, most people would not choose divorce, but instead they would endure the grievances and live together, thinking that if they could endure it, they could maintain the marriage.
But as time passed, as they got older, it seemed that the bonds that kept their marriage together were no longer there. At first, they were worried about the gossip of the world, but nowadays, the reaction to divorce is no longer a big deal.
In this case, if the problems that the other party finds difficult to accept persist, or the relationship between the two parties becomes increasingly worse over time, it will reach a point where it cannot be maintained and a divorce will be chosen.
So, in fact, the fundamental reason why many people over 60 are divorcing today is because they originally intended to divorce when they were young but now have good conditions.
Psychologists say that one of the reasons that “insiders” often give is that they have run out of tolerance for each other after long years. But a deeper analysis shows that in many cases, to reach the point of “being unable to tolerate”, both partners have not made an effort to nurture the marriage, have not changed themselves, only see the faults of the other, lack tolerance for each other, to the point of “being unable to be reconciled”.
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