The son-in-law broke his promise to support his parents-in-law in their old age. Seeing my daughter's attitude, I firmly demanded the dowry back.

My name is Yu Fanghui, I am 64 years old. Since my daughter got married, my husband and I moved in together. Over the years, I have been in charge of the housework and taking care of the children, while my wife has been in charge of the household expenses. Our old couple has been raising a daughter and a family of four.

Some relatives may think we are so stupid to do this, our daughter is already married but we still work hard and give without complaining, we do not know how to value ourselves at all. However, I have never valued it and never remembered the gossip of others. Why do we do this? In fact, when we first learned that our daughter was in a relationship, we were both unhappy with our son-in-law.

We just bought a house for our daughter and her husband, and also pay for living expenses and taking care of two young children.

I have retired from a state-owned enterprise, my wife is also a company leader, our monthly income is more than 10,000 yuan (more than 30 million VND), such conditions in our locality are very good. But what about the son-in-law's family? Both parents are farmers, the family has two younger brothers, I heard that the son-in-law takes care of the two brothers' school fees, you can imagine how heavy the burden is.

We have raised our daughter very well, never causing her pain, as long as it is something she likes and within our ability, we will try our best to make her happy. If our daughter chooses to marry into such a family, not only will it not help the young couple, but it will also become an obstacle for them.

People go to high places, water flows to low places, of course we also hope that our daughter will have a good destination. The conditions of our son-in-law clearly did not meet our expectations of a good house, so at first we strongly opposed.

Before, my daughter was a good girl, in every way she made us feel secure and was often praised by everyone around her. Unexpectedly, when my daughter fell in love, she seemed to become a different person, like what children often say online: "love brain", in her heart, love is above all and she does not care about her parents' feelings.

Even though we didn’t agree, my daughter still insisted on staying with her son-in-law, and to show her determination, she even moved out to live with her boyfriend. At that time, my wife was so angry that she had high blood pressure, and I was also very sad, not understanding why my good daughter had disappeared, why the person by my side seemed like a different person. Her soul and appearance didn’t look like our daughter at all.

For a long time, my husband and I even ignored our daughter, hoping that she would see our attitude and reconsider this relationship. However, a shocking news came, she was pregnant and when my husband and I found out, the fetus was already 4 months old.

At this time, the son-in-law came to the door and said, "Uncle and aunt, although my family's circumstances are a little worse, I will definitely try to improve in the future, and will never let you down."

In addition, the son-in-law also confirmed that he would not live with his biological parents, so my daughter would not have to endure the situation of "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law". In particular, the son-in-law also suggested that we live together.

"When you two are old, you can live with us. I will definitely treat you two like my own parents and be filial. Tieu Anh is an only child, from now on our children can carry the Tieu Anh surname. So I hope you can give me the opportunity to be a son-in-law and I will not disappoint you both."

I know that people in the countryside value living with their children after marriage, so I was very touched when my son-in-law made such a suggestion. We only have one daughter, so after careful consideration, we agreed.

Old parents just want to receive true love from their children.

After all, my son-in-law's performance is quite good, except for his family, if we as his father-in-law and mother-in-law can help him in the future, their lives will not be too bad. The most important thing is that we also understand that we cannot let our daughter be sad, we can only agree to follow this path, otherwise our daughter may do more extreme things.

Considering that we would live together in the future, we discussed and decided to buy a house as a dowry for our daughter. This house is considered to be relatively large, with an area of ​​over 160 square meters, with a total of four rooms, 2 bedrooms and 2 living rooms. I think we will stay in one room, my daughter and son-in-law will stay in one room, if I have two grandchildren, it will be just right, if I have a grandson, the remaining room will be used as a living room. This is very reasonable.

We registered this house in our daughter's name but I added a condition. From now on, our daughter and son-in-law must provide for us in our old age. Regarding our son-in-law's suggestion that his grandson should take our surname, we have no opinion. In our opinion, no matter what surname the child has, he is still our grandchild. This does not affect our love for the child so we will not interfere.

I wrote all these requirements in the agreement and asked my daughter to sign it. If we couldn't do it later, we had the right to take back the house. I didn't tell my son-in-law about this agreement, and even asked my daughter to keep it a secret. After all, we had known each other for a long time, and I really trusted my son-in-law.

At that time, I only thought of this as a precautionary measure, but I never imagined that one day this agreement would come in handy. One night two months ago, my son-in-law came to us and said, "Mom and Dad, I have something to tell you. You are old and not in good health. It is not convenient for you to go to the doctor at home. I am their eldest son, and for so many years I have never cared about anything. Now I must fulfill my filial duty."

I asked: "What do you mean by that? Do you want us to give up our seats for your parents? Do you remember what you promised?"

The son-in-law replied: "It's very hard for our parents to take care of us here, so it's easier to go back to the countryside. Anyway, the distance is not far, Tieu Anh and I will often take the children back to visit our grandparents."

Unexpectedly, we still remember, we really paid a high price for her small family, my daughter gave birth to two children, I raised both of them, even put them to bed at night, so that my daughter and son would be a little less tired.

Taking care of children and daily meals for the family is very expensive and there are many areas where you need to spend money. But my daughter and son-in-law have never given us any living expenses, all living expenses at home are paid by the old couple, if our income was from our own home, we could live a very comfortable life, but at my daughter's house, we don't have much money left. Meanwhile, my son-in-law has no burden and can transfer a significant amount of living expenses to us every month.

We have also helped our son-in-law a lot in his work, he is doing business in the company, we have made many friends and introduced him to some businesses, otherwise he would not have been promoted and his salary would have increased very quickly. However, since being promoted, he is no longer as cautious as before, although he still respects my wife very much, but sometimes he is not so polite with me, sometimes he even speaks loudly to me when the children are not taken care of properly.

This had never happened before, at that time I didn't care, just thought maybe my son-in-law loved his child so much that he was too emotional. And then he apologized to me.

However, he is a complete white-eyed wolf. He feels that he has a firm foothold in this city now, so he wants to send us home to retire.

The elderly couple decided to live independently to feel happier.

So I wasn't angry when I heard my son-in-law say that. Instead, I looked at my daughter and asked if she thought the same way as my son-in-law. My daughter glanced at us guiltily, hesitantly expressing her thoughts, without a doubt, her loving mind had not disappeared, still standing on her son-in-law's side.

Now, our old couple are completely disappointed in our daughter, I said: "If you want, let us go, but the house must be returned to the house".

The son-in-law slowly said: "I was told by my friends that the dowry house was a gift. This house was given to Tieu Anh, it has nothing to do with me, how can my parents just take it back?"

I chuckled and said, "That's right, but we signed an agreement with Xiao Ying. Now that you've violated the agreement, I have the right to take back the house." After saying that, I went upstairs to get the agreement for my son-in-law to see.

After watching it a few times, the son-in-law quickly said: "Mom and Dad, I was just joking. You are still used to living in the countryside. From now on, you will still live with us..."

After this incident, we saw our son-in-law's face clearly, and we also understood what was in our daughter's heart. Although we were her parents, she was still not as important as her son-in-law to her. There was no way we could not continue living with our daughter and son-in-law. That day, we asked the young couple to move out of the dowry house and return the house to us.

My son-in-law kept begging us to forgive him, but once something like this happened, it was enough. We are still healthy now, and can still contribute money and effort, but he treats us like this. Will he still care about us when we are in a hospital bed and need someone to take care of us? I don't dare to think about it anyway.

In the end, we kicked our daughter and son-in-law out and took back the entire house.

Now I gradually understand that no matter how old we are, we should not put our hopes on others. My husband and I are both healthy and fully capable of providing for ourselves in our old age. In the future, when our health declines, we can hire a nanny to take care of us in our old age, or we can find a better nursing home where we can still live happily.

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