The children are running around noisily, but why is the mother still calmly discussing business?

Trẻ nhỏ vui chơi luôn cần người lớn để mắt, canh chừng - Ảnh minh họa: QUANG ĐỊNH — Children playing always need adults to keep an eye on them - Illustration: QUANG DINH

Lan is someone I know, a content specialist and screenwriter, often collaborating with a number of media companies and TVC and viral clip directors.

A few years ago, Lan sent her children back to the countryside for their grandparents to take care of. Life in the countryside helped her children grow up healthy. They were all tall and slim, with tanned, healthy skin. However, although they were only two children, they caused a stir and chaos wherever they appeared.

Lan said children are innocent. Living in the countryside, familiar with rivers, fields and gardens, children have to eat and speak loudly. Many people in the countryside are still like that. Lan will gradually teach her children how to behave politely and properly.

Mother lost her "job" because her child was noisy.

With the excuse that no one else would take care of her, Lan took her children with her wherever she went. The two children were dragged everywhere by their mother. When meeting friends. When going to relax, having coffee at the end of the street. When entering a cafe, Lan and her mother occupied all three seats. Many times, friends felt confused, not knowing what to talk about when the children were around.

In addition, the children are at the age of loving to eat and drink. Every time they look at the menu, they choose dishes and shout loudly. Their friends shake their heads in dismay. Lan calmly tells them to order, and then the children will wander around the restaurant, freely sharing and discussing personal matters.

The 7-year-old and the 9-year-old, they didn't eat or drink much, but their level of mischief, running, and causing trouble in the restaurant was probably unmatched. The restaurant had stairs and a small fish pond. The staff looked at each other in dismay, and reminded Lan to keep an eye out for danger. She calmly said it was okay. Friends and colleagues sat and talked, but they felt uneasy.

The situation did not reach the red level until she continued to bring her children to brainstorming sessions or to discuss plans for making TVCs or viral clips. Friends and partners cleverly arranged for the children to not enter the room or meeting area, but only to play around outside. But there was never a meeting where the crew was not disturbed.

Sometimes the kids run after each other, sometimes they scream and fight over the iPad to play games. On top of that, during project meetings, Lan is often distracted by glancing to see what the kids are doing and where they are. When the kids are too noisy, Lan has to go outside to scold and teach them, the atmosphere around is very tiring.

Since Lan took her children with her on every trip, her friends have become more reluctant to ask her out for coffee or drinks. Her brainstorming sessions have gradually disappeared because people don't want to be affected or distracted. Lan lost her "job" because her children were noisy and lacked tact.

Tired of trying to cope

Một buổi dã ngoại của học sinh - Ảnh minh họa: QUANG ĐỊNH — A student picnic - Illustration: QUANG DINH

Khang - a tour guide - said that he is also very stressed when receiving family-style groups with many children. Every time he visits museums, libraries or temples, he often gives parents tactful instructions but still cannot avoid funny situations, such as children exchanging slippers with other visitors, hiding shoes or running around and making noise in solemn places.

The most frightening thing is that children accidentally trip and break furniture and artifacts.

Notably, there are some parents who defend their children indiscriminately, ready to scold the instructors when they see their children being reminded too much or prevented from running around. "Parents just say let them go naturally, if anything goes wrong they will pay for it," Khang said in frustration.

Teaching children behavioral skills, is it difficult?

According to experts, children are not as difficult to teach and discipline as many parents think. The problem is that parents must set an example, and families must regulate their lifestyle and civilized behavior in public.

In reality, people from the countryside tend to talk louder than people from the city. When I first moved to the city, I was once scolded by my landlord at midnight. The reason was simple: my youngest sister had just come from the countryside to take a bath in the middle of the night, and the sound of scrubbing clothes and pouring water accidentally made noise and disturbed the landlady.

After that, the landlord also scolded my sister for talking on the phone or chatting with friends too loudly, even though my room and the landlord's room were separated by another tenant's room.

I confirm that in the countryside, my parents rarely reminded me of this and told and taught my younger sister when she moved to another place to live, especially in the middle of a crowded city with people living close together.

In addition, some couples often talk loudly or argue loudly, whether it is a big or small matter. This accumulates over time and causes their children to follow suit. They speak loudly, are rude or are ready to argue when faced with injustice.

To teach children to live in a civilized manner, respect private space and behave properly in public, I think parents need to explain to their children why they should behave this way and not that way.

Every time your children make a mistake, skillfully analyze and explain. You can ask them how they feel when they are studying or doing something and their friends bother or come to disrupt them. Do they feel comfortable?

Children should be taught to be quiet when going to public places such as libraries, hospitals, museums, restaurants, and even to keep order when entering and exiting elevators. Teaching children manners from a young age will help them form and practice good habits.

In addition, when disciplining children, I think parents should not "turn up the volume" or try to shout loudly to drown out their children, making things worse. In particular, children should be taught at home. Don't wait until the children go out the door, to a common or public space, then show off your teaching skills.

Do you mind when children are too noisy, running around freely in public places? Will you let your children express themselves freely in public places? Should we teach children many behavioral skills? Please share your opinions via email [email protected]. Tuoi Tre Online thanks you.

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