Here is a street interview in China about the question: Should the paternal or maternal grandmother take care of the grandchildren?
A common social phenomenon in the vast majority of families in China is that grandparents help young couples take care of their grandchildren.
Young people need to work, if they have enough money they can hire a nanny to take care of the children, but if both grandparents are still healthy and can help take care of the children, it is also a way to help the couple reduce the financial burden.
They also feel secure in their hearts because it is better to entrust their child to someone they trust than to a "stranger".
The following street interviews with unmarried young people in China will help us have a more specific view of the young generation's thoughts on the issue: Should the paternal or maternal grandmother take care of the grandchildren?
The answers were really rich, especially the opinions of two young men that received hundreds of thousands of likes and comments from the online community.
This young man who grew up in the countryside frankly said: "If the house is in the countryside, the grandmother will usually take care of the grandchildren, but if the house is in the city, I'm not so sure."
The answer was very sincere and direct. Many netizens said that this guy had not thought much about the above issue, he was speaking out of his own experience.
It is known that this young man grew up with his grandmother in the countryside. His parents worked far away and only came home once or twice a year. Later, he went to the city to study and work, which opened his eyes more.
There was also a young man who answered cheerfully: “ You should let your grandmother take care of your grandchild, your grandmother just needs to be responsible for paying the money. This arrangement requires the paternal side to have some conditions, and you can also feel secure if your grandmother takes care of your grandchild. Both sides put in the effort, as long as you talk it out, there is nothing difficult.”
Next was this young man wearing glasses, he first said: "If I give birth to a girl, let my grandmother take care of her because she has a lot of experience."
Then he continued: "If I give birth to a son, let my mother (grandmother) take care of him herself!"
However, this opinion has made netizens a bit indignant. Many people think that he has a patriarchal mindset, only valuing his biological mother and completely disregarding his mother-in-law. The way he said “let my mother take care of it herself” shows a certain sense of constraint, imposition and patriarchy.
A netizen made a very interesting comparison: “If you go to your friend’s house to eat, and your friend sits down and says: Let me personally eat with you today. What would you think then?”
This young man said: “It is best for the husband and wife to take care of the child themselves. If the grandmother wants to take care of the child, she can ask her to do so. My mother (grandmother) said that after retirement she will travel frequently and will not have time.”
Through this, we can see that this young man's mother has a rather open mind and enjoys life. Instead of being with her children and grandchildren all day, worrying about every diaper and every bowl of rice, she hopes that her old age will no longer be tied down by taking care of her grandchildren.
He also understands the psychology of the elderly and is fully responsible for his future children, if any. He understands that his mother needs to enjoy life, not continue to “raise children” again.
This guy's opinion received a lot of approval, "a heart-warming answer". Everyone said he was thoughtful, although he was not married yet, he had already made up his mind beforehand, so there would be no confusion later.
Having said that, on the issue of whether to let the paternal or maternal grandmother take care of the grandchildren, it is actually best for the husband and wife to take care of the children themselves. Whether the grandparents take care of the grandchildren or not depends on the situation and conditions of both parties. Sometimes, the paternal and maternal grandparents lending a helping hand according to their abilities is also a very valuable thing.
Children should grow up in the loving arms of their parents. Of course, not every couple can do this, and they need the help of their grandparents. The most ideal way at this time is to sit down and talk, listen and think for each other, not taking the other's giving for granted.
Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/nen-de-ba-noi-hay-ba-ngoai-cham-chau-cau-tra-loi-cua-chang-trai-chua-ket-hon-nay-da-duoc-dan-mang-tam-tac-khen-mat-long-mat-da-172250108151122445.htm
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