Infertility is still happy

Illustration: DANG HONG QUAN

The couple often stay here to go to the hospital near the airport for egg stimulation and embryo creation for nearly a year.

The journey to find a child is quite arduous, as each attempt takes several months. "It not only takes time but also health and money, but my husband and I try with the simple wish of having a child," said Mr. Phuong, Ms. Trang's husband.

They had been in love for 5 years, since their college days, and got married a few years after graduating. During that time, they were both young and wanted to build a career and have a stable job before having children, so they used contraception.

"Both of us are in good health but I don't understand why we don't have children yet," they said, then looked into the distance. It has been more than 10 years since their wedding, and the couple decided to wait 6-7 years before starting to research and perform procedures, hoping for results.

At the age of nearly 40, both agreed that "of course, even if we can't have children, we still love each other and live together until old age."

Mr. Phuong said that the couple joined several groups of infertile people to encourage each other, share experiences... and saw that there were many couples in similar situations.

"Of course, having children will be more fun, but I think having love and sincere sharing from your partner is also a joy and happiness in this life," Ms. Trang expressed her opinion. She said that there are couples who succeed after persevering, but it is not uncommon for couples to fail. "They choose to live happily without children with their partner or think about adopting a child," Mr. Phuong shared.

Both of them also chose to accept and be happy with the final result after trying their best. "There are many other happy things that my husband and I have seen besides the hope of having children," Trang confided.

According to Dr. Nguyen Truong Manh - working at the Reproductive Support Center of Hanh Phuc International Hospital and Men's Health Center, infertility is not only a reproductive problem but also an emotional journey for couples.

"Are we putting too much pressure on having children and is not having children really such a sad thing?

I often hear many couples share that they feel that society places too many expectations on having children. The question "When will you have children?" from family, friends and society becomes a great pressure, making them feel sad, worried, negative and lost," said Dr. Nguyen Truong Manh.

According to Dr. Manh, to overcome this difficulty, couples need to accompany each other and seek support from medical specialists. In addition, understanding, encouragement and support from family, friends and society are also very important.

In particular, each couple and family needs to look at the issue of infertility more comprehensively. "Having children is a choice, not an obligation. Old social concepts such as "not having children will make you lonely in old age" or "having children to continue the family line is the right thing to do" create too much social pressure for infertile couples."

This infertility specialist believes that happiness does not only come from having children, but also from many other factors in life. Each family has its own values ​​and happiness.

Spending time together, experiencing new things, pursuing passions and careers can also bring great joy. Whether you have children or not, building a strong, loving marriage is the most important thing.

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TAN KHOI

Source: https://tuoitre.vn/hiem-muon-van-hanh-phuc-20250406095341832.htm