Love your children the right way

Dear Ms. Ha Anh!

My son is 24 years old this year but he doesn't work hard and hangs out with his friends all day long. Now that I'm retired, all living expenses depend on my small pension, which is not enough to cover the life of the two of us. I've advised him a lot but it only worked for a short time, then everything went back to the way it was.

Two years ago, my child gambled, bet on football, lost, and owed nearly 1 billion VND to black credit. At that time, people came to my house every day to collect the debt. At first, I was determined to let my child take responsibility for what he had done. But due to pressure from creditors and fear that something bad might happen to my child, I had to sell my house and assets in the countryside to pay off my child's debt.

I thought that was a valuable lesson for my child to learn from and not dare to repeat the mistake, but unexpectedly, after a short time, my child returned to his old ways. He was still addicted to gambling, betting on football, still hanging out with bad friends and again fell into a debt of nearly 400 million VND. When gangsters came to my house to collect the debt and threatened him, my child ran away for a while.

Currently, my only asset is the small house where my mother and I live. If I sell the house to pay off the debt, my mother and I will have no place to live. Now I am very miserable and confused, not knowing what to do to help my son quit gambling. I hope you can advise me.

Hong Hanh (Bu Dang)

Dear Ms. Hong Hanh!

Her son is 24 years old this year, mature enough to decide his own future. In her situation, her son should be the pillar and support for his mother. But unfortunately, her son got into gambling, got into debt and had to sell his house and land to pay off his debts. Having lost his house once, he should have realized his ignorance and learned a lesson, but instead, her son "returned to his old ways". If she continues to sell his house to pay off his debts, will he wake up and realize his mistakes or will he continue to gamble when he did not earn the money and does not know how to appreciate it?

Right from the first mistake of her child, she should have been firm in disciplining him and letting him take responsibility for the debt he caused. Unfortunately, she sold her property to pay off the debt for him. Her child's mistake was resolved gently and satisfactorily, causing him to not realize the value of the hard work she had done all her life to earn.

Every mother loves her child, but she must love them in the right way, helping them grow and improve. This time, let your child take responsibility for his actions so that he can realize his mistakes and correct them.

“Near the ink, you will be black, near the light, you will be bright”. Currently, your child is hanging out with some friends who are unemployed and idle, which will affect his thinking and behavior. To help your child change, you should separate him from these bad friends. At the same time, advise your child to get a job to earn income to pay off his debt. When he has income and is always busy with work, he will no longer have time to think about playing around.

If I don't taste the "bitterness" of what I have done, I will probably never wake up. Please be determined to let me take responsibility for what I have done.

Source: https://baobinhphuoc.com.vn/news/258/171108/yeu-thuong-con-dung-cach