GĐXH - When you get old, no matter how much you love your children, you must remember that they also need to learn to live independently.
1. Money
As parents, they always love and are willing to do the best for their children.
Even when they are in their old age, they still want to leave a lot of money and wealth to the next generation to ease their hardship. However, there is a saying that teaches children how to fish, not giving them fish.
In this matter, parents should only support and not take care of financial matters for their children because it will cause many unnecessary consequences.
When they get old, instead of leaving all their money to their children, parents should "save" for themselves, preparing a solid financial foundation for themselves. Illustrative photo
Accordingly, children who live in a comfortable life sometimes do not realize the hardships of their parents and develop wasteful and competitive lifestyles.
If they do not know how to control their spending, it will easily lead to many disasters. Therefore, parents love their children but should not give them money for impractical things because it is easy to spoil them.
Not only that, being financially supported by parents will make children not want to work but become lazy, losing their will to strive.
Gradually they will take it for granted that their parents give them money and demand it if it is not given.
This habit of depending on others will make it difficult for these children to be independent when they encounter difficulties without their parents' help and will encounter many failures when facing the harshness of society out there.
So we can see, parents spoiling and protecting their children too much is not good, especially in terms of money.
On the contrary, parents who teach their children to be independent from a young age will help them mature early and understand the value of money and the value of labor.
From there, children will know how to cherish and save the money they earn, and at the same time have more motivation and confidence to earn money and prolong the prosperity of the family.
Besides, when they get old, instead of leaving all their money to their children, parents should also "save" for themselves, preparing a solid financial foundation for themselves.
When your children grow up, they will not always be there to take care of you. At this time, if you are unlucky enough to fall ill or have an emergency, you can still take care of yourself without your children.
Only then, in the years to come, will you have less worries and anxieties.
2. House
Mr. Wang's old neighbor (China), as soon as his son got married, he sold his house and wanted to move in with his son.
Many people around them advised them not to be impulsive but to keep it, if they were not happy living together later, there would still be a way out.
But the old neighbor confidently believed that the child was filial since childhood so there would be no problem.
Sure enough, after living together for less than a year, the old neighbor couple had to pack up and go back to their hometown to find a house.
Unfortunately, local housing prices have increased, most of the money they have is given to their children, the old couple cannot afford to buy a house, now they can only rent a temporary house to live in.
Many older people confidently believe that a more crowded home is happier, but in reality this is not really a good choice.
First of all, there are huge differences between generations. Young people like to stay up late, old people like to go to bed early, young people like to be noisy, old people like to be quiet... even small things can easily lead to conflicts.
The elderly should change their old ideas, not tie themselves to their children. When children grow up, they should have their own space and their own life. If they miss their children, they should gather together and enjoy the holidays.
3. Bias
Favoritism in the family has been quietly taking place in many families in many different ways and to different degrees.
The most typical example is probably the situation where parents are biased towards their children or give their children the impression that they are biased between siblings in the family, even though sometimes parents are not really biased or intentionally show that they love one child more.
However, this has unintentionally caused conflicts and emotional rifts between generations, many people even turned their backs on each other and never spoke again.
Therefore, in any case, even when old, parents should not show favoritism in words or actions towards any child.
Parents' equal love and care for their children is the "healing medicine" that helps children develop healthily.
Because only when each child believes that they are loved can they love others, then the family will be harmonious and close.
Even when they are old, parents should not show favoritism in words or actions towards any child. Illustration photo
4. Time
As people get older, time runs out.
Many parents spend that time taking care of their grandchildren and doing housework for their children instead of enjoying and resting after more than half a lifetime of hard work.
This not only wastes the remaining precious time but also affects your health due to overworking.
Good health is not only a blessing for the elderly but also the greatest support for children.
Take time to exercise, join clubs to make friends, relax and you will be healthy.
Many parents have a high spirit of sacrifice, their whole life revolves around their children, no matter how much they give, they never complain.
However, we must understand that, before becoming parents, we were also normal people, with our own lives and needs.
Parents should learn to enjoy their own lives. “Selfless devotion” is no longer appropriate for contemporary family relationships.
As an adult, learn to take care of yourself and enjoy life. As for children, learn to be independent and respect your decisions.
Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/ve-gia-nguoi-khon-ngoan-se-keo-kiet-voi-con-cai-4-thu-172250207170009804.htm
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