This morning, when I took my child to daycare, I accidentally met an acquaintance. She was surprised because my baby was very chubby.
When giving birth, everyone thinks that they will receive blessings and support from their family members. But no, life is not always a rosy picture. Especially when there are "kind" relatives who like to interfere in other people's private lives.
Over a year ago, I welcomed my little angel into this world. A new journey full of challenges, sweat and tears, but also a wonderful journey, making me grow and learn a lot.
During my pregnancy, I gained a lot of weight, and even after giving birth, I was still 30kg heavier than before I was pregnant. During that time, I was almost inactive on social media because I was very self-conscious about my appearance.
This is my second time giving birth, but both times I had no help or encouragement from my family. After many conflicts, I decided to quietly cut off contact with them because I didn't want to hurt myself any more.
My family has four generations living under one roof, so it's very complicated, especially my aunt, the wife of my youngest uncle, a woman who causes drama wherever she goes. My aunt and I are only 3 years apart in age, at first I respected her a lot because even though we were the same age, she was still my uncle's wife, but after some things, my aunt and I almost stopped seeing each other.
Since I no longer keep in touch with my family, I don't know how they live. I'm not nosy or curious, so I just hope they leave me alone. But I don't understand why, even though we have nothing to do with each other anymore, my aunt still insists on being spiteful towards me.
My baby was about 6 months old when I started my weight loss plan and successfully got back in shape. Women, who doesn't like to look beautiful, since I got my appearance in order and returned to work, I've been active on social media as usual. So when I'm at my worst, I don't show it off, but when my energy is more positive, I'm ready to share it with everyone.
I don’t hesitate to post my happy moments on social media, from pictures of going out, eating, to keeping fit. It’s my way of enjoying life and proving that being a mother doesn’t mean giving up on yourself.
But it seems that taking care of myself has become something to be criticized in the eyes of my "psychological" and "understanding" aunt. For some reason, she thinks that taking care of my appearance and having relaxing moments out there is something sinful.
This morning, when I took my child to daycare, I accidentally met an acquaintance. She was surprised because my baby was very chubby. He is currently 14 months old and weighs 14kg, is 87cm tall, is developing very well and is extremely healthy. I can proudly say that I am a very child-addicted mother and I take very good care of my children, even my eldest child has outstanding height and weight. But just because of a few photos of me dressed neatly, with a neat appearance, nails and eyelash extensions, I suddenly turned into a terrible mother!
My aunt went everywhere telling both acquaintances and strangers that I neglected my children, spending all day just dressing up, traveling and getting beautified, but not taking care of the two children at all. The older one was sloppy and the younger one was malnourished and stunted!
Since the day I cut off contact with my parents, I have lived a light life, without any worries, without having to think about whether my actions will offend anyone, so I live a much more positive life. Just because I have become a better person, I have more energy to take care of my husband, children and myself, but suddenly I have become a sinner from the mouth of my aunt to the eyes of this person and that person.
The aunt's worldview is really scary when she imposes strict and outdated standards on others and then judges them when they have not done anything to affect her family's livelihood?
I don’t remember a time when a mother wanting to live happily and be beautiful became a sin. I mean, to her, the ideal mother is always sloppy, sloppy, disheveled, tired and sacrificing everything for her children? Why can’t she be a woman who can take care of her husband and children and herself?
But the thing about life is that as long as there is something to talk about, idle and gossipy people will be ready to get excited with endless rumors. So my aunt, with her tireless tongue, happily spreads rumors everywhere as if it were her duty to "save" unfortunate mothers like me from the "foolish" life I was living.
But even if I were a worthless bitch, what effect would it have on that aunt?
Maybe I should thank you for taking such an interest in my personal life. But sorry, my life is not a TV show that you can sit at home, sip tea, and comment on. I am the mother of my child and I know what I am doing. You don’t need to be on the noon news to tell the whole neighborhood what I am wearing, where I am going, or what I am doing.
I am not a robot, I also need time for myself, to recharge and maintain balance in life. That helps me become a better mother, with an optimistic and happy spirit to spread to my children.
So, instead of wasting time gossiping about others behind their backs, why don't you focus on your own life, find your own happiness, and leave everyone alone?
Finally, I just want to say: I don't need judgment from anyone, especially from people who only know how to gossip. I am proud of my life, proud of being an independent woman and a loving mother. And if my taking care of myself makes you uncomfortable, then I'm sure it will be uncomfortable for a long time.
Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/soi-duoc-anh-cua-chau-chong-tren-mxh-thim-di-buon-khap-noi-toi-la-loai-me-chang-ra-gi-suot-ngay-dom-dang-bo-be-de-con-cai-suy-dinh-duong-172241226151007413.htm
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