6 types of children that are a 'nightmare' for parents when they get old

GĐXH - The biggest sadness of parents is raising the following 6 types of children, so that they become a burden when they are old.

1. Children think they are right and impose their wishes on their parents.

There are also children who think they understand their parents' needs and impose their own wishes, thinking that this is filial piety.

This type of "filial" behavior from children often backfires and makes parents miserable.

Tieu Hien is a self-righteous and filial child.

She felt that her parents were getting older and needed more exercise, so she woke them up at 6am every day and went jogging in the park with them.

In fact, her parents liked to get up late and go for a walk near home, but in order not to disappoint their child, they had to cooperate.

As a result, her father fell ill from overwork, and her mother became depressed from lack of sleep.

Xiao Xian's good intentions became a burden to his parents, and this imposed filial piety left his parents helpless.

There are also children who think they understand their parents' needs and impose their own wishes, thinking that this is filial piety. Illustration photo

2. "Unfilial" children

As parents, everyone wants their children to be happy and grow up in love.

From the time their children were infants, parents have tried to nurture, care for and educate them.

They spend their entire youth ensuring their children are well fed, clothed, educated and develop in the best possible conditions.

Sometimes, they have to sacrifice their dreams and personal lives, just to see their children smile.

But the sad thing is, those sacrifices are not always understood and appreciated by children.

There are children who, because they are busy pursuing their own lives, or because of lack of proper attention, have unintentionally or intentionally forgotten the merit of giving birth and raising their parents.

For parents, nothing is more painful than feeling like their love and sacrifices are being overlooked or even denied.

The two words "disobedient" have a terrible weight on parents. It is not just when children say disrespectful words or act offensively.

Disrespect is also shown through small things that many children do not realize: indifference, lack of interest, not listening or disregarding parents' feelings.

Parents do not expect their children to pay or repay them for their efforts in raising them with material things. What they sometimes need is just a word of greeting, a little care or a warm hug.

However, if even these simple things are not there, the pain in the parents' hearts will be greater than any wound.

Especially when they get old, parents become weaker both physically and mentally. They need their children not only to take care of them, but also to be their companions and share their lives with.

If faced with loneliness, indifference or being forgotten by their own children, they will feel abandoned and deprived of the value of life.

3. Treat parents like mobile ATMs, only looking to drain their money.

Children who treat their parents like money printing machines will not want to grow up, will not take responsibility for their parents, let alone be filial.

My uncle has a son who graduated from college but has never seriously looked for a job.

That person, my cousin, always stays at home and does nothing. Whenever he wants to spend money, whether it's going out to eat with friends or buying a gift for his girlfriend, he always asks his father for money.

The amount of money asked for only increases, not decreases.

My uncle was extremely miserable and was running out of money, unable to meet his son's needs. Although he scolded him, because he loved his son, he gradually sold the furniture in the house to secretly provide for him.

Finally, my uncle asked me to find a job for his cousin. Feeling sorry for him, I also used my connections to help my cousin find a job as a factory worker near home.

But he had an argument with his co-workers and quit after just two days.

After that, my cousin continued to stay home all day playing games, not doing housework, not helping his parents. His room was like a dump and my uncle and aunt worried until their hair turned white.

Children who have no dreams, don't know what they should do, don't know how to take responsibility for themselves, and just want to depend on others will always push their parents' old age into tragedy.

Therefore, parents should be strict with their children from a young age, do not spoil them and let them learn to be independent.

Children who treat their parents like money printing machines will not want to grow up, will not take responsibility for their parents, let alone be filial. Illustration photo

4. Giving responsibility for taking care of grandchildren to parents, not respecting parents

Parents spend money to get their children married, and after their children have children, the parents have to take on the additional responsibility of being nannies.

On the surface, many people will think that these children create conditions for grandparents to gather with their children and grandchildren, but in reality, not all elderly people are happy to leave their hometown, go to the city and take on more heavy responsibilities.

Someone said: The grandparents loved their son and daughter-in-law very much, they diligently came to the young couple's house every day to look after their grandchildren.

But one day, the child got sick, the child turned around and blamed his parents for being heartless, not knowing how to love their grandchild, which caused the child to get sick like this.

Hearing these words from the son and daughter-in-law, the old couple were very angry and immediately had an argument.

Since then, the relationship between the two generations has been broken, the children hate their parents, and the old couple's kindness is not reciprocated.

Parents have spent their whole lives working hard to raise their children. When they reach retirement age, they need to rest and take care of their health.

Having to run after 2-3 grandchildren from early morning to late at night all day makes us exhausted quickly, even seriously ill.

Parents spend money to get their children married, and after their children have children, the parents have to take on the additional responsibility of being nannies. Illustrative photo

5. Dependent on spouse, ignoring parents

Whether male or female, marriage is more or less influenced by the other half.

If the daughter-in-law/son-in-law is understanding, it's okay, but in the opposite situation, the most unfortunate people are the parents.

My neighbor is an example. He and his wife have only one son so they put all their effort and heart into raising him.

He is a gentle, obedient son but also a weak husband.

After marriage, his wife took over almost all the control in the family, including showing filial piety and taking care of her parents.

One weekend, the son planned to take his whole family to visit his grandparents. On the day of the trip, his wife suddenly announced that a close friend had just returned from studying abroad and wanted to organize a meeting.

Although he didn't want to, he finally agreed to his wife's wishes, leaving his parents stunned when their children and grandchildren reported back, then he "turned around".

This situation happens not only to sons but also to daughters. When getting married, many women often devote themselves to their husband and in-laws, forgetting that their own parents also need to be taken care of.

Daughters are likened to their parents' little cotton coats, but now the cotton coats no longer belong to their parents.

Actually, in this matter, parents only need one small request of their children. That is, after marriage, it is best to have your own opinion.

They do not need to obey their parents completely nor their spouse absolutely.

Instead, each person should carefully consider the issue, ensuring a balance between their partner and their parents.

6. Children who interfere too much and deprive their parents of their freedom

There is a type of child who is overprotective, overly worried about their parents and wants to interfere in everything, causing their parents to lose their freedom and making them lose the joy of life.

They are afraid that their parents will become senile and get into trouble here and there, so they don't let them do housework; they are afraid that it will be dangerous for them to go out, so they make their parents stay home all day.

Old parents, although living a carefree life, have lost their independence in life.

They feel like they have become a bird trapped in a cage, not knowing freedom. The kindness of children has become a restraint for parents.

Filial piety is a precious tradition, but if it is only superficial and ignores the real needs and feelings of parents, it will become a "disaster".

True filial piety is not only material satisfaction but also emotional care and understanding.

Children should learn to listen, respect their parents' wishes and genuinely care about them.

Only in this way can parents feel true happiness and warmth in their final years.

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