Don't let expectations become a burden.

Young people today are surrounded by a lot of pressure. They are not only pressured by family and social expectations, but also by pressure created for themselves. Setting big goals and constantly trying to achieve them has left many young people exhausted and in a state of prolonged anxiety.

Young people today are often inspired to "pursue their passion", "continuously improve themselves", "become perfect"... These words of encouragement, although positive in meaning, unintentionally create great pressure on young people. Many young people set goals of achieving outstanding achievements to affirm their self-worth.

Hoang Yen, 27, a marketing employee in Ho Chi Minh City, shared: "I always told myself that by the age of 30 I must buy a house, achieve a management position and have a stable life. But the harder I tried, the more exhausted I felt. Many nights I lost sleep worrying about whether I could achieve those things or not."

Having achieved her goal of buying a house by the age of 30, Nguyen Phuong Huyen (event organization team leader, in Tay Ho district, Hanoi) has set a new goal for herself: buying a car in two years.

Always putting pressure on herself, Phuong Huyen has to try 150%-200% of her strength. She is busy and often stays up late to work. Working on a job that is already full of time, she still takes on other work if she has the chance.

Phuong Huyen said that she often falls into a state of fatigue and stress because of "old debts piled on new debts". Setting big goals is not wrong, but when those goals lack practicality and do not come with a specific plan, many young people easily fall into a spiral of disappointment and fatigue.

They work harder, sacrifice personal time but the results are not always as expected.

Khanh Minh (Cau Giay District, Hanoi), a 25-year-old programmer, shared that he worked 12 hours a day for a year to achieve his goal of promotion. When the goal was not achieved, he fell into a state of depression and lost motivation to work.

"I felt like I wasn't good enough, that I was falling behind my peers. This pressure made me not want to do anything anymore."

Psychologists say that to overcome self-pressure, young people need to learn to set realistic and flexible goals. It is also important to be satisfied with small progress in the process of striving.

According to experts, young people should ask themselves whether the goals they set are really suitable for their circumstances and abilities. Don't force yourself to achieve everything in a short time.

In addition, young people should share their feelings and difficulties with friends, family or a psychologist to relieve pressure. Young people should also take time to relax, exercise, or pursue personal hobbies to help balance life.

In particular, it is important to understand that failure is not the end, but a part of growth. Don't let your own expectations become a burden that makes you lose the joy of life.

Source: https://pnvnweb.dev.cnnd.vn/dung-bien-ky-vong-thanh-ganh-nang-voi-nguoi-tre-20241224113653203.htm