The pressure of life and the silent "sacrifice" of children

Parents spending a lot of time with their children not only fosters affection but can even impact their children's intelligence quotient (IQ). Photo: Contributor

The burden of making a living and the "lonely" children

Ms. HTH works at a medical facility in Tay Hoa district. Her husband raises shrimp in Song Cau town so he only comes home a few times a year. Although they have a good income and only have one child, because both husband and wife are busy, most of the time the child is at school or in gifted classes.

When her son was young, Ms. H thought it was okay. But as her son grew up, she did not listen to him share about his friends, school, or conflicts in class, but instead he became more and more immersed in the world of cell phones or computers. When talking to his mother, her son always answered briefly - "yes" and then did as he wanted. He became more and more stubborn and difficult to manage, but she could not communicate to adjust his behavior. Worried and feeling helpless, she and her husband did not dare to have more children even though the family was small and financially well-off.

Ms. H's family is not a rare case where parents do not have time for their children when today's adult life is too busy. According to some secondary school teachers, when they pass primary school age, students begin to have many changes in their psychology and physiology. This is an important milestone, parents need to understand and accompany their children so that they can develop in the right direction. That is the theory, but today, many busy parents do not have much time for their children. When not receiving enough attention, many students become sullen, quiet, neglect their studies, and communicate ineffectively; some even develop a rebellious mentality. When contacting to discuss with their families, most of the parents work far away, leaving their children with their grandparents. Or there are children whose parents work at home but are too busy to buy their children phones, give them money to spend freely without caring about what they eat or how they study.

According to research by Dr. Schulte (USA), every 10 minutes of quality time can make a big difference to a child's development and should be at least 10 minutes a day. That is, children do not need you to spend too much time each day, just at least 10 minutes on quality activities, even just one quality activity is really beneficial for children.

According to psychologists, the lack of love and care from parents can cause serious consequences for children's development. Children may feel lonely, lost, lack confidence, and even depressed. Many children turn to electronic devices and social networks to distract themselves, but this makes them even more distant from their families and more susceptible to negative information online. Along with that, the lack of supervision and guidance from parents also makes children susceptible to social evils.

Spend quality time with your children

In modern life, parents always work hard with the hope of giving their children a better starting point and a brighter future. To ensure a comfortable life for their family, many people choose to go far away, work overtime, and work overtime to earn more income. So what is the solution to help parents accompany their children despite stressful and busy life and work?

According to nutrition expert - doctor Anh Nguyen, Deputy Editor-in-Chief of Harvard Public Health Review, Harvard University, busy parents may not spend too much time with their children, but must ensure that the time with their children is quality time, dedicated to the child's educational development.

Quality time can include: Parents can spend time learning to update their knowledge and reading books about children's psychological development; learning about children's nutritional and health needs at each age; being creative with children; reading books with children and building a love for books. In addition, quality time is when parents interact two-way with children: such as asking and answering, chatting and listening to children's opinions to respond appropriately; playing with children, teaching children important skills... These quality times are exactly what a child really needs when they are young.

Many psychologists have pointed out some golden moments in the day that help parents, no matter how busy, to connect with their children. These moments come from very ordinary times such as when the child wakes up in the morning, when the child comes home from school, at dinner or before the child goes to bed... In addition, parents should also create a warm, loving family environment where children can comfortably share their thoughts and feelings.

Source: https://baophuyen.vn/hon-nhan-gia-dinh/202504/ap-luc-cuoc-song-va-su-hy-sinh-tham-lang-cua-con-tre-9dd3950/