I'm single, doing great right now

Being single for quite a while, the pressure of adulthood makes My Trinh "addicted" to living alone and afraid of love - Photo: C.TRIEU

On those forums, there are quite a few comments from a group of young people saying they are afraid of love and are used to living alone.

The prospect of becoming parents no longer holds much appeal for them.

Many young people say they are not very interested in getting married and having children, even though they have heard about support policies that encourage having two children and will enjoy some incentives such as considering reducing personal income tax, buying social housing, and giving their children priority in public schools...

Being single is fine, why don't I live my own way... are a few of the many reasons you mentioned that sound light and simple, like the way each person is enjoying "life only once in a lifetime".

Love, dating, caring for each other is fun, I've experienced it so I know. But if your finances are not stable, don't fall in love, it's better to focus on working and taking good care of yourself first, everything else will come later.

HOANG NGOC LUAN (27 years old, Binh Duong)

I'm happy!

Financial consultant Gia Han (District 3, Ho Chi Minh City) always attracts the attention of many people whenever she appears with her slim, healthy appearance and constant smile on her lips. Almost anyone who knows Han is approaching 34 years old is surprised with "eyes wide open, mouth wide open".

Someone even asked her for her "secret" to being radiantly beautiful, Han smiled and answered simply: "I'm happy to be single". Gia Han's family also kept urging her, saying that their daughter never mentioned anything about having a lover. She had to get married soon and have children because a girl's youth would soon pass. Every time like that, Han just smiled. If her parents spoke harshly, she would just obediently let it go.

The girl also experienced a few love affairs. For many reasons, the lovers left one by one. After ending a love affair, Han was immersed in pain, crying until her eyes were swollen. "After a few broken hearts, I saw that there was no reason for me to love and bring sadness upon myself. And it's true, I haven't loved anyone in the past 4 years, but every morning when I wake up, I feel very happy" - Han smiled.

While women worship being single because they are afraid of suffering when their love fails, men also have many reasons to choose to live alone. Ngoc Hoang (34 years old, Binh Tan District, Ho Chi Minh City) said that his position as a communications specialist at a multinational corporation takes up almost all of his time during the day. Therefore, if he falls in love, he has to constantly ask about, pick up and drop off, and take care of someone, which is very difficult. Gradually, Hoang calculated that he has not been in love for 7 years.

Hoang Ngoc Luan (27 years old, Binh Duong) argued that "if you are poor, you should not love anyone". Luan said that love nowadays must go hand in hand with financial ability. "If a man cannot afford the cost of love, then why love? It's best to just focus on working to make a living, living like that is still fun" - Luan said.

"I am" with my head held high

Independence, from a certain perspective, also brings many positive values. But for many young people, because they love this, they unintentionally become afraid of love and bored with marriage. After graduating from university and leaving his hometown to work in Ho Chi Minh City for more than 5 years, Trong Khanh boasts that he once had a beautiful love affair.

The two had planned to get married, but Khanh stopped because she could not meet the requirement of living with her husband's family. Since then, she has chosen to live like that, "living alone" with her head held high. Currently working as an assistant director with a very good salary, Khanh has also bought an old apartment on installments. Many times, her family has asked and offered to find a match for her, but Khanh always shook her head.

Khanh said he is used to and loves being single, and every time he thinks about getting married, he is "afraid of losing control of his life". He said he is used to and happy with making his own decisions, taking the initiative in all activities and plans. "Getting married and having children is no longer like that. Even though a couple respects each other, everything must be discussed together and there will certainly be times when they disagree. It's better to be single and independent" - Khanh said.

Like Khanh, Quynh Hoa (29 years old), an office worker in Tan Phu district (HCMC), said "I feel scared when someone interferes with my life". She said she is used to going to work in the morning, going out with friends in the evening when she feels like it, and staying home to watch movies, listen to music or read books when she is tired. Hoa laughed: "It's peaceful now, but when you fall in love, it's miserable. You have to explain everything you go to, and you always watch each other and act like you care about each other. I'll spend that time taking care of myself and my family."

Lazy to love

Connecting in the "4.0 era" is both difficult and easy. The jungle of dating apps makes it easier to find a partner. But there are also people who say they are really lazy in love. My Trinh (28 years old, living in Da Nang) is an example.

Trinh said that a few people confessed their love to her, and she also had feelings for him, but it was all one-sided. After graduating and going to work, the whirlwind of work and the pressure of adulthood made it even harder for her to open up to someone. Trinh now admits that she is very lazy in love because the free, colorful single life gradually conquers her every day.

Source: https://tuoitre.vn/minh-doc-than-hien-dang-rat-on-20240301001335095.htm