Husband agitatedly carried his wife out of court, refusing to divorce

GĐXH - 'I have realized my serious mistake and the negative impacts it caused.' - he said.

The divorce has attracted the attention of many Chinese netizens. Specifically, the wife, surnamed Chen, from Sichuan, has been married to her husband, surnamed Li, for 20 years. The couple has 2 sons and 1 daughter.

Chen recently filed for divorce because of her husband's abuse. Li often became violent when drunk, which scared Chen. She said their relationship had broken down. But Li did not want a divorce.

The local court rejected the divorce petition, saying the couple still had “deep feelings” and could reconcile. Dissatisfied with the ruling, Chen decided to appeal to a higher court.

During the second trial, Li suddenly carried his wife on his back and carried her out of the courtroom. Ms. Chen was extremely frightened and screamed. Court staff also quickly intervened.

Illustration photo: SCMP

Li later wrote an apology letter, admitting his actions were extreme and pledging never to repeat them.

In the letter, Li wrote: "In a state of emotional turmoil, I thought I was about to divorce my wife, so I took her out of the courtroom. I ignored all instructions from the judge and court staff.

I have realized my serious mistake and the negative impacts it has caused. I pledge never to repeat it."

In the end, under the mediation of the court, the couple did not divorce. Ms. Chen agreed to give her husband a chance to rebuild family happiness.

How to save a marriage on the brink of collapse

Dr. Jyoti Kapoor - psychiatrist, psychologist and Director of Manasthali Health and Family Center (India) said that in married life, at first everything seems happy and stable, but after a while, differences between the two people may appear.

Conflicts and differences can strain your relationship with your partner, making it on the verge of breaking up. To salvage the situation, you can do the following:

Open and honest communication

You need to start by creating an environment of open and honest communication between the two of you. Let both of you express your thoughts, feelings, and opinions without fear of judgment.

Couples need to be clear about the problems they are having in their relationship - the things that have led them to their current situation.

Conflicts and differences make the relationship between you and your partner tense, on the brink of collapse. Illustration photo

Listen

Listen carefully to what the other person says. Show that you value their point of view by giving them your full attention, maintaining eye contact, and avoiding interruptions. Repeat back what you heard to ensure understanding.

Be empathetic

Put yourself in their shoes and try to find common ground and ask yourself, "Would things be better if I were you?"

Tactfully express your point of view

To effectively communicate your thoughts and feelings, you should use sentences that begin with the word "I," notes Jyoti Kapoor.

For example, say “I feel hurt when…” instead of “You always…”. Tactful communication not only helps the other person understand, but also helps them develop empathy.

Compromise if possible

Conflicts in a marital relationship come from many aspects, you should try to find common ground between the two of you to compromise.

Also, you should agree to some points or requests from your partner in a constructive manner. This can help build a foundation for solving various problems in the marriage.

In charge of

If you cause conflict, take responsibility for your actions. Apologize if necessary and make a commitment to make positive changes.

Seek advice

Consult a marriage counselor or even your loved ones.

A neutral third party can provide valuable guidance and advice to help you understand and move forward from a broken marriage.

Finding Intimacy Again

Couples often miss out on essential moments of connection in their marriages. Rekindling intimacy is an important part of rebuilding an emotional bond.

Note

Dr. Jyoti Kapoor emphasized that saving a marriage on the "brink" of collapse will require both parties to be willing to make efforts to solve problems, learn from mistakes and actively contribute to this healing process.

Resilience and perseverance are essential in the journey of rebuilding a marriage.

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