Insomnia due to wife snoring at night, I want to sleep separately but am afraid of breaking up our happiness

My wife snores so loudly, I simply want to get enough sleep so I don't feel exhausted anymore so I suggest we separate rooms; my wife disagrees, saying if we sleep separately, our family will fall apart.

My wife and I have been married for nearly 5 years. Including the time we fell in love when we were students, we have been together for 10 years. In such a long time, we understand each other's habits and personalities. After having a cute baby boy 3 years ago, our family has become even more complete, I feel that life is truly fulfilling. However, in recent months, I have become more and more annoyed with my wife's new bad habit: she snores loudly at night.

Before, my wife and I always slept very peacefully together. When my wife was pregnant and had just given birth, she snored but not too loudly, and it stopped after a while. However, recently, perhaps because my wife gained a lot of weight or for some other reason I don't know, she started snoring again and the sound became louder.

I don't want to criticize or discriminate against my wife because this is an objective problem that no one wants. The problem is that I am a very light sleeper. At night, just a small sound or light is enough to wake me up. Knowing her husband's personality, my wife has always been very conscious about being careful and gentle at night. She trains her son to sleep alone early to both train him to be independent and avoid affecting his father's sleep.

But my wife can't control her snoring. Lying next to her, I lack sleep every night. Just as I'm about to fall asleep, the sudden increase in sound from the next position wakes me up, and this happens many times during the night. Working hard and tired all day, and not sleeping or resting enough at night, I become lethargic, lack of vitality, and my work efficiency decreases.

In the past 3 months, I have lost about 3kg, always coming to work exhausted, making many colleagues think that something was wrong at home.

My wife's nighttime snoring kept me from getting a full night's sleep for 3 months. (Illustration: Adobe)

Feeling embarrassed, I had to tell my wife, telling her to go to the doctor to see if there was any way to fix it. At first, my wife didn't believe me, but when she heard the sound in the clip I recorded, she realized her bad habit. My wife went to a clinic near our house for advice and tried many methods such as lying on her side, drinking warm water before going to bed, using an anti-snoring spray... but the situation didn't improve significantly. The main thing is that I'm a very light sleeper, even with earplugs, I still wake up many times during the night.

To have the strength to work, I asked my wife to let me sleep with my son. After about a week, she became angry and irritable and asked her husband to go back to the room. She said that after sharing the same bed for so many years, she couldn't sleep now that we weren't together. She seemed very hurt, saying that I was bored because she got fat after giving birth so I tried to avoid her, that her snoring was also a consequence of the pregnancy process.

I felt really guilty when my wife said that everyone has times when they are tired and snore loudly, when I snore she also endures it, why am I so selfish to abandon the woman who gave birth to my child. She said that only by sleeping together can married life be real, if young couples sleep separately, sooner or later they will become two people sharing a house, the family will be broken.

Seeing my wife's eyes dark from difficulty sleeping without her husband lying next to her, and not wanting to cause family discord, I returned to the shared room, but knowing in my heart that from now on I would have to endure exhaustion from lack of sleep.

How can I convince my wife not to be so stubborn about sleeping separately? Actually, we still love each other, I am not bored with her, I just want to be quiet and get enough sleep. Many couples sleep separately and are still happy.

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