Communicating with relatives and honestly saying the following 3 things is cruel to yourself

In life, don't think too carelessly about everything, especially in relationships with relatives - people who seem familiar but are the most unpredictable and least satisfied with you.

"As a person, you must know how to be reserved and calmly get through the day, without needing to bargain or compare. Clear water has no fish, honest people have few confidants. No one can go through life together, there are some things that should just be kept in the heart", author Diec Thu (Chinese writer) wrote like that in the book "The Wallflower Bubble".

Thinking back, that was a wise way to treat others. Be a little silly, and you'll be happier.

And in any relationship, especially relationships with family or specifically relatives - those who are close are very close, but also very far away.

So, when communicating with relatives, what should you be careful and reserved about to make them happy and yourself happy? Below are 3 things you can refer to.

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When asked about income and family finances: Say less, or better yet, don't say anything.

Working far away, returning home after a year, family and relatives happily gather, it's hard to avoid questions: "Is your business doing well this year? How much is the Tet bonus?", "How much is the starting salary after graduation?", "Your family has a big Tet this year, so your work must be going well, right?"...

In short, it is about money and family economics. There is a saying "each family has its own light", which also implies a reminder that in family relationships, you should keep the rules, only you can tell about your family matters, and you will be praised in front of others, or you will be sympathized with at that moment... but it is not certain that your relatives really want to share those things with you.

Asking questions is sometimes just a form of giving gifts. Therefore, when communicating with relatives, money is a sensitive issue, so it is better to say less, or not say anything at all.

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Personal sadness, family secrets: better to keep quiet

"Why didn't Lan's husband come home for Tet this year? Is there something wrong with his family?", "I think he's living a life of disrespect"; "My 2nd aunt's daughter just got divorced. It's true that couples shouldn't think about marriage now, just live together for as long as they can", "The wedding seemed so grand" ...

The stories relatives whispered to each other in the kitchen of their grandfather's house in the afternoon of the New Year's Eve meal made anyone ponder.

Relatives care less about each other and more about each other's lives. From a certain perspective, caring too much about each other's lives is not necessarily a good thing.

Everyone has sad stories, every family has secrets, but once you reveal your troubles to others, especially relatives, the story will become more complicated and dramatic. Each person contributes a sentence, and it becomes a big deal!

So, never reveal stories that many people already know and cannot change anything.

Don't be too honest, you will be the one who suffers. Don't seek sympathy from outside, relatives are your blood relatives, the rest should just be kept at a social level.

My thoughts on other people in the family: To tell the truth, there is a big problem.

And thirdly, when communicating with relatives, remember to avoid expressing your thoughts about someone in the family to others. Expressing your feelings will not help but bring trouble to yourself later.

In general, people must know how to find a way out for themselves. If you keep defending the problem that hurts you, the other person's words will be a fatal stab.

Keep quiet, don't answer, you can even give a polite smile and walk away. Know this: If you're not shy, then the person who is shy is not you.

Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/giao-tiep-voi-ho-hang-ma-that-tha-noi-ra-3-dieu-sau-la-tan-nhan-voi-chinh-minh-172250114090623648.htm