What made a couple divorced for nearly 50 years get back together?

GĐXH - Not only did the couple reunite, they also held a second wedding ceremony in front of their children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren.

The couple, who live in Lancaster, Pennsylvania, USA, divorced in 1975 and decided to remarry after nearly 50 years apart.

Fay Gable (84 years old) and her husband Robert Wenrich (94 years old) held their second wedding in Denver on December 8, 2024.

The wedding was held in a cozy atmosphere, with close family members. The guests were all witnesses to the love story for decades.

The couple also has four children, 14 grandchildren, and 14 great-grandchildren. Robert's two stepchildren also attended the grand ceremony.

"They were like two teenagers in love. They did everything together," youngest daughter Carol Smith told local media. "My dad said she was his first love. He never thought he would marry her again."

The youngest daughter also revealed that because her parents' time is running out, they don't want to miss each other again.

Mrs. Fay Gable on the day she accepted Mr. Robert Wenrich's second marriage proposal at her home in Lancaster, Pennsylvania. Photo: AP

They first met in 1950 through a family introduction. Robert was a close friend of Gable's brother.

Gable recalled that Robert told her brother that he was "definitely going to marry your sister" one day, which was the beginning of their romantic relationship and marriage.

The two married in November 1951 and experienced many ups and downs in life. Four children were also the result of their marriage during this period.

In 1975, Gable and Wenrich decided to divorce but did not disclose the reason. They both remarried later, but their partners gradually died of illness and old age.

Even though they are divorced, the two still maintain a friendship, often share ways to raise their children and attend family gatherings together.

Smith said she and her siblings feel very lucky about that.

The following years were a time for Fay and Robert to reflect on their lives and past relationships. They grew closer and closer to each other. And they finally decided to get back together after nearly 50 years of divorce.

The children planned to have hydrangeas and white roses—Fay Gable's favorite flowers—for the wedding. The wedding dress was a minimalist design, made from white canvas.

"This dress is much more beautiful than the one my mother wore to her first wedding 73 years ago," Smith said. She also revealed that her mother still carefully kept the old wedding dress in the closet.

As soon as the youngest daughter shared information about her parents' remarriage after 50 years, friends and relatives continuously sent their blessings. This love story was then widely spread on American social networks.

4 lessons from people who reunited after divorce

Divorce can be a pause, creating space and time for couples to realize their own shortcomings, learn to forgive, improve themselves and give love a chance again.

As a psychologist with 30 years of experience in counseling couples and families in the US, Dr. Jeffrey Bernstein has worked with many couples who have gone through the crisis of divorce and then got back together. He has drawn four lessons from couples who reunited after divorce.

Divorce gives time to grow yourself

Many couples get back together because they realize personal growth is a key factor in the reunion process.

When first married, issues like poor communication, unresolved trauma, or conflict drive them apart.

It is only after divorce, when forced to face their shortcomings, that they are able to heal themselves.

For example, there are cases where the wife finds herself abandoned by her husband, while the man is too busy with work.

They divorced because of resentment and disappointment. But after a few years apart, they both spent time improving themselves.

Women learn to communicate better and express their needs. Husbands realize that work dominates their lives to the point of neglecting their families.

Both chose to make peace, but only after realizing their mistakes.

Divorce can be a pause, creating space and time for couples to realize their own shortcomings, learn to forgive, improve themselves and give love a chance again. Illustration photo

Release hatred to revive love

Forgiveness is not easy, but it is necessary. One of the most important challenges for couples reconciling after divorce is letting go of old hurts.

Unresolved grudges and conflicts from the past can poison efforts to start over.

Learning to forgive your partner and yourself can create space for love to return.

Experts say forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting, but rather a commitment to moving forward and not reopening old wounds. Use your time apart to work through the past and move on to a better chapter.

Building new relationships on old foundations

Getting back together doesn't mean you restore the old relationship but build a new one when you realize the value of the past.

Successful couples who reunite often create a fulfilling relationship based on the lessons learned from their first marriage.

Dr. Bernstein says that some couples who divorce get back together after dating someone else. When they remarry, they approach their relationship with curiosity, excitement, and a focus on who they have become, rather than who they once were.

Experts advise against trying to recreate the past, but instead to heal and accept both changes. The new relationship should reflect who you are now, not who you were before.

Communication is key

All couples know communication is necessary, but the difference that keeps couples from getting back together is daring to talk about the difficulties, what went wrong, what needs to be done, and what needs to be done.

Transparency allows couples to rebuild trust, nurturing intimacy.

Experts recommend communicating courageously, stating your hopes and concerns clearly. Create a safe space where both of you can express them without judgment.

Be clear, empathetic, and open to listening to what's bothering you.

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