GĐXH - Every time they argued, Ms. Ngoc Anh threatened to divorce, making Mr. Van feel insecure. Therefore, he started to secretly hide his own money in case of an emergency.
The argument between the couple Ngoc Anh and Tuan Van in Nam Luc Bao, Son Tay, China, made netizens in this country laugh until they cried.
During the argument, Mr. Tuan Van lost his temper and hit his wife, forcing the police to intervene. After that, the two sat down to talk clearly.
The couple calmly sat down and talked to resolve the problems.
It is known that the couple has been married for more than 20 years and has two daughters together. A few months ago, when she discovered that her husband had hidden four checks worth about 30,000 NDT (about 105 million VND) under the table, Ngoc Anh asked her husband about them, but he refused to explain. Too angry, she decided to confiscate all the money.
A few months later, she discovered that her husband had secretly transferred 7,000 yuan (about 24.8 million VND) to her mother-in-law’s WeChat account. His secretive actions made Ngoc Anh suspect that her husband had another woman.
Only then did Tuan Van open his heart. It turned out that their relationship was opposed by Ngoc Anh's family from the beginning, but because they loved each other, they were determined to be together.
However, the relationship broke down right after the wedding. Because her husband's family did not give their daughter-in-law a set of gold jewelry as is traditional, Ngoc Anh felt very upset, which eventually led to an argument.
Because of this, every time they argued, Ngoc Anh threatened to divorce, making Tuan Van feel insecure, worried day and night, afraid that one day his wife would abandon him and he wouldn't know what to do. Therefore, he started secretly hiding his own money to prepare for unexpected situations.
After many years of living together, Mr. Tuan Van gradually felt more secure because he saw his wife wholeheartedly taking care of the children and the family, and did not hesitate to give his salary card to his wife to keep.
Recently, seeing his sister-in-law and her husband buying a house and spending tens of thousands of yuan on renovations, Mr. Tuan Van suspected that his wife had taken the money from the house to give to his sister, so he was very angry. The fear of being abandoned by his wife again came back, causing Mr. Tuan Van to continue hiding his secret fund, in case his wife took all the money in the house.
After listening to each other's confessions, Mr. Tuan Van and Ms. Ngoc Anh felt extremely regretful and promised not to hide their personal feelings, to proactively talk when problems arose, and to find a solution together.
5 ways to keep couples from arguing about money
Open conversation
Don't be afraid of talking about money. Whether you've been together for a few weeks or a few years, talking about finances can deepen your relationship.
According to therapist Catherine Dukes, couples should take time when together to talk openly about financial issues, such as spending habits from childhood and current financial management views.
Couples can benefit from talking about their strengths and weaknesses in money management and what their goals are for improvement.
Then you can move on to bigger topics like budgeting, saving, and future spending.
Money is one of the common causes of conflict or arguments between husband and wife, even causing broken marriages. Illustration photo
Budgeting together
Once you have a basic understanding of your partner's views on money, you can work together to create a budget for the future.
According to financial expert Lillian Rishty, couples should come up with a mutually agreeable plan for managing their family's finances.
This includes creating a budget, deciding who will pay which bills, and setting aside money for shared expenses and personal discretionary spending. It's important that you both find common ground on that plan.
There is a monthly review.
Maintaining financial health isn't something that happens overnight. Therapists recommend having a monthly financial review with your partner.
According to expert Steve Carleton, couples should review their current financial situation, discuss any major purchases or investments that have been made or are about to be made, bills that need to be paid, and plan ahead for future expenses.
Couples should also review their budget to make sure they are staying within their limits and update their goals to reflect their current situation.
Be honest with your partners
Carleton says you shouldn't hide financial secrets from your partner, no matter how small. "Being honest about money can help couples avoid arguments because it helps them understand each other's financial goals, attitudes, and habits," he says.
When both are transparent and open about finances, they can create a budget that works best for both of them, compromise, or make changes to reduce potential conflicts that may arise in the family.
Remember: You are husband and wife.
Addressing financial issues is an essential part of a positive, strong relationship. "My best tip for avoiding arguments about finances is to not only talk about it regularly, but to always remind yourself, 'We're a family,'" says psychotherapist Katherine Chan.
Try not to turn your partner into an enemy by making accusations. Instead, work together to combat financial challenges and commit to working together.
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