My wife says the same thing all day long, making me bored with the house and bored with Tet.

(Dan Tri) - Just because of nothing, my wife can make all kinds of assumptions, making me really tired.

It's almost Tet and I'm not in the mood, so I'll just post my thoughts here to ease my mind. Maybe someone can give me some direction to solve my current situation.

The story is that my brother and I discussed pooling money to repair the family altar in the house in the countryside so that this Tet, the extended family would have a spacious and beautiful place to reunite, also as a gift to celebrate my mother's birthday.

I agreed with my brother, but when I got home, as soon as I spoke, my wife immediately dismissed me, and scolded me further: "You don't have any money, but you're still making a fuss. The house needs all kinds of expenses for Tet, and we don't know where to get the money to cover them. You're so free, you even thought of repairing the house in the countryside. Mom lives with you and your brother, the main house is just a place to gather for worship, who will live there and repair it?"

Not only that, my wife also turned around and questioned me, asking how much money I paid my brother, where I got the money from, did I have a "black fund" or "red fund" hidden from her? Now I am in a dilemma.

My wife is too calculating, making my life really tiring (Illustration: iStock).

Having boldly agreed with my brother to repair the church for my mother, now he turns around and says no, it won't work. He will know right away that my wife is blocking me. In my family, no one says it out loud, but everyone knows my wife is strict.

By the way, my husband and I are not rich, but compared to our combined income, we are quite well off. In addition to the house we live in, we also bought an apartment for rent and have a car worth over a billion dong.

Saying that to show that our life is not too worried about the economy. I myself come from the countryside, my family is poor so I am very enthusiastic and hard-working.

I have only one older brother and we are very close. Since my father died early, I have considered him as the pillar of the family since I was young. He knows that my wife is careful and strict. But if I told him that my wife did not agree to repair the family church so that my mother could be happy in her old age, he would probably have a different view of my wife.

If I take the role of a decisive man and deliberately decide to fix the altar for my mother, one thing is for sure, my wife will not leave me alone, and the family atmosphere will be extremely tense.

I don't want to celebrate Tet in such a miserable state. Thinking back, I feel extremely disappointed with my wife's behavior.

I don't want to mention it at all, but there are things I'm very unhappy about with my wife. Usually, every year during Tet, my wife and I go back to our hometown and give each of our grandchildren 200,000 VND, regardless of whether they come from the paternal or maternal side.

Only last Tet, my brother's eldest daughter gave birth, I excitedly took out 500,000 VND to give to the child. That was all, but my wife got angry, made a fuss, and complained that I had too much money, was too open-minded, and gave a different amount of money to someone else for no reason.

I said that because my son was the youngest member of the family, no one could compare to me giving him more. But my wife told me that when my son was born, she only gave him 200,000 VND as a lucky money gift. Why didn't I say anything? Knowing that, she also gave him 500,000 VND as a lucky money gift, just like me now. After all, she just wanted to prove that I valued my paternal family more than my maternal family.

I find my wife's way of thinking childish. I am a man. I have never paid attention to how she spends money. When my wife gave lucky money to her grandchildren, I did not care how much she gave to each person, but now she brings it up to compare. It is all nonsense, and yet my wife and I are at odds.

I don't like my wife's petty behavior and thinking, always comparing and calculating gains and losses, while I am always very reasonable, treating both sides of the family openly and transparently. Could it be that I am like her, comparing sensitive matters to "put each other down"?

Even when my wife secretly gave her parents money, I knew but ignored it because I respected her privacy. Why wasn't she generous enough to do the same?

I ask everyone, in the matter of repairing the family church, should I ignore my wife's opinion to fulfill my duty to my mother or listen to her to keep peace at home?

And what should I do in the future, how should I talk to my wife to make her understand and reduce negative thoughts, comparisons, and jealousy to make the family atmosphere happier and more harmonious? Thank you everyone.

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