Civilized behavior in school: Need empathy

The incident of a teacher being locked in the door and having slippers thrown at her face by students until she fainted in Tuyen Quang seems to be missing an important piece, which is the voice of the students, the confession (not the report or criticism) of their immature souls.

Without listening and empathy, teachers and students are caught in a "dangerous war", eroding the civilized environment in schools. Accusations, blame, retaliation and punishment will create a vicious cycle that pollutes the educational environment.

Taming the wild soul

In his two famous works, The Adventures of Tom Sawyer and The Adventures of Huck Finn , writer Mark Twain describes two boys, Tom and Huck, with all sorts of mischievous and mischievous acts that would make any educator have a headache and give up. If these two boys were to be classified as having good conduct, it would certainly be the weakest, nothing more.

However, under that rebellious exterior are sensitive souls, full of love and kindness. The one who realized this was Tom's Aunt Polly. With incredible patience, tolerance and forgiveness, Aunt Polly transformed the wild youth of the two boys.

Teachers and students need to have empathy in the school environment.

ILLUSTRATION: DAO NGOC THACH

If I could go back in time, I would listen to my students.

During my many years of teaching, I have encountered many unruly, even insolent students (in my opinion at the time). I have also applied all the required measures of punishment, discipline, and demotion… according to the regulations.

However, now thinking back, I always regret those decisions, wondering what they would have to face after being disciplined. If I could do it again, I would definitely choose to listen and forgive those young people.

Such situations require respect and cooperation from all parties. Parents and teachers should skillfully demonstrate tolerance and generosity, proactively withdraw from the conflict and encourage active cooperation from students.

Let the children express themselves, realize their mistakes and responsibilities, and then the educators will correct and adjust them.

Teachers must create conditions for students to express themselves, realize their mistakes and take responsibility.

ILLUSTRATION: DAO NGOC THACH

That way, no power struggles will break out, and the classroom will not become a battlefield of devastated teacher-student relationships, with ruins in the souls of all sides.

Let love heal those wounds and build a civilized environment in schools.

Because, as the late President of the United Nations General Assembly, Ms. Vijaya Lakshmi Pandit (1900-1990) once said: "The goal of education is not to teach how to make a living or provide tools to achieve wealth, but it must be the path that leads the human soul to reach Truth and practice Goodness."

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