Thanh Ngoc’s 8-year journey of “finding a child” ended with the sweet fruit of a cute, adorable son. However, after having a child, the female singer commented that the previous hardships were just the “prelude” to a long journey for a mother. She confided that “giving birth is difficult, raising a child is 10 times more difficult”.
But with the noble mission of a mother, she is always grateful that her child came to her. The singer admitted that after having a child, she changed a lot.
Sharing her heart with VTC News reporter, the former leader of the group Mat Ngoc shared many little-known things about her 8-year journey of "finding a child" and her happy married life with a husband who loves and pampers her very much.
Singer Thanh Ngoc and her husband are still in love after more than 13 years of living together.
“My husband is a superhero”
Thanh Ngoc is a famous and prominent female singer in the band Mat Ngoc, which "dominated" the Vietnamese music scene from 1998 to 2004. After the band disbanded, the female singer continued to work independently and achieved certain successes. Thanh Ngoc got married in 2011 and had to go through a difficult process to give birth to her first son.
Thanh Ngoc and her husband have been married for exactly 13 years. With all that they have been through, Thanh Ngoc and her husband's married life is just like the saying "fire tests gold, hardship tests strength".
Talking about the early days of marriage, she and her husband did not plan to have children right away, both wanted to enjoy married life. After a while, Thanh Ngoc discovered that her health had problems leading to difficulty in giving birth.
“My ovarian reserve was low, so it was difficult to get pregnant naturally. At that time, we were treated together according to the doctor's regimen.”
Talking about the 8 years of "looking for a child", Thanh Ngoc said: "In total, I stimulated my eggs 7 times, 3 times of in vitro fertilization. There were times when I got pregnant but then I was not destined to have a child. Baby Un was the last embryo. When the pregnancy test showed 2 lines, my husband and I were both happy and worried .
After that, throughout my pregnancy, I was always worried because the doctor warned me about my health and that I needed to be absolutely careful until the baby was born.
Unlike other pregnant women, Thanh Ngoc had to stay in bed for 9 months and 10 days. All of the singer’s personal activities, from washing her hair to cleaning herself, were taken care of by her husband.
Every time it was time for her prenatal check-up, Thanh Ngoc would be carried by her husband to the clinic and then returned to bed, minimizing movement. There was a time when she had to be hospitalized for 45 days for the doctor to monitor her.
The journey to "find a child" was arduous, but luckily she had the support of family and friends.
However, the long period of pregnancy recovery caused an active person like Thanh Ngoc's legs to atrophy, combined with the pressure from the fear of "losing the child" causing the female singer to become depressed.
Although her husband and family were always by her side, her mental illness still “visited” and tormented her every day. At that time, the female singer lifted her spirits with hope when she saw the fetus growing day by day.
Despite trying to protect her baby, due to her weak constitution, Thanh Ngoc was forced to give birth prematurely at 31 weeks of pregnancy, while healthy babies are born at over 38 weeks of age.
She gave birth 7 weeks early, so her son was only 1.4 kg when he was born. The doctor placed the baby on her body, and before she could even hold or caress him, he was taken to another children's hospital for health care. The mother and son were in 2 different hospitals, so Thanh Ngoc's husband had to run back and forth to get milk for the baby.
“I think my husband is a real superhero. It took both mother and child a while to get back to normal, which meant my husband had to work harder.”
When mentioning her husband, Thanh Ngoc cannot hide her happiness and joy. However, there is also something that always makes her worry.
What makes Thanh Ngoc always feel “indebted” to her husband is that even though people her husband’s age who are doctors already have their own clinics, he still refuses because he has to take his wife to shows at night. The female singer revealed that her husband does not allow her to go to shows or work alone.
Singer Thanh Ngoc and his wife.
"Having children is difficult, raising children is 10 times more difficult"
Thanh Ngoc opened up, the moment she agreed to share about the difficult story of giving birth so that those who have followed and truly cared about her would have an answer.
“I let those who love me know a little bit about what happened to me. But I don’t want that story to make people think I’m trying to get attention to get back into the profession. Because this is my personal problem, I just want to say it once so that those who love me can understand.”
Her son is now 5 years old, but when she recalls the difficulties and storms that she and her husband had to face and overcome while looking for him, Thanh Ngoc feels choked up.
She believes that being where they are now is a blessing for both of them. They have tried very hard and are blessed by God.
“People often say that when you are sick, you have to pray in all directions,” Thanh Ngoc shared. “In addition to modern medical methods, my husband and I have visited many temples to pray for a child. When our child grows up, we will take him back to pray.”
Singer Thanh Ngoc and her beloved son.
Talking about her changes after becoming a mother, the singer said she has become a different person. “I have changed my perspective on life, the way I treat my children, my family and the people around me.”
Now, for the former leader of Mat Ngoc, she looks at life more lightly, no longer harshly about any issue or anyone.
Sharing about the issue of raising children, the female singer exclaimed that "giving birth is difficult, raising children is 10 times more difficult". Although she and her husband have the same views on raising children, in life, arguing is inevitable. Because the female singer wants to teach her children with words, patiently explaining to them so they understand. But sometimes she can't stand it and also yells at them.
“I believe that children are a reflection of their parents. If we scold our children, at some point they will get angry and scold us in the same way. Children will learn bad words from their parents. Teaching children is not a simple thing. We cannot use the old ways of beating, forcing, and imposing to teach our children. We have to learn with our children every day.
My husband is a doctor, so he sees diseases everywhere. He is too meticulous, making it difficult for our child to have direct contact with the surrounding environment. This makes it easy for us to disagree. Having a child makes me more gentle and restrains my temper."
The female singer admitted that she has gradually become gentler and less hot-tempered than before.
Having fulfilled her wish of "having a child", Thanh Ngoc affirmed that she did not want to give birth anymore because pregnancy was very difficult for her. The time of lying still and the pressure of "keeping the child" still made her scared.
“Now I can’t have more children because who will take care of me and the children? I think I’m also entering my 40s, and my health is no longer good enough to have children. I should also enjoy my personal life a little, because only when I balance myself can I bring happiness to my loved ones. If I’m not healthy and mentally ill, I won’t be able to take care of anyone.”
Thanh Ngoc performs in the show "Beautiful sister riding the wind and breaking the waves".
Trinh Trang
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