At the age of 50, Ms. Bui Thi Minh Hien (Quang Nam) is praised by many people as "more beautiful than when she was 40". Facing the "winged" words of her friends, Ms. Hien feels elated.
Ms. Minh Hien shared that she was happy because she could clearly feel the change in herself - both her soul and appearance.
"Honestly, looking back at pictures from 10 years ago, I couldn't believe how old I looked. I looked old and rustic because I dressed so sloppily, wearing whatever socks I had, whatever clothes anyone gave me...", Ms. Hien confided.
In fact, not only Ms. Hien but also many other women, in order to take care of their family and children, they often save and simplify their own needs to the maximum. This gradually becomes a habit that makes many women forget to take care of themselves to make themselves more beautiful over the years.
Ms. Hien recalls a period of nearly ten years ago, when every day she woke up, all she knew was to take care of her children and look after the grocery store. Her husband had a good salary, and her grocery store was making tens of millions of dong a month.
Earning money is hard, thinking it's a waste of money, Ms. Hien doesn't dare to spend it or have fun. In the past, her husband's office often "paid" for the whole family of staff to go on vacation, so the whole family often went together.
Later, the agency cut the budget, and families had to pay extra, so Ms. Hien and her children stopped going. Thinking that the whole family going on vacation for 3-4 days would waste half a month's income for both husband and wife, she considered backing out. Eventually, she got used to it and no longer had the need to socialize or meet friends of both husband and wife.
Then one time, after returning from a vacation with her father, the 10-year-old daughter said: "It seems like dad has a girlfriend at work, mom. Dad sits down to eat, and she sits with him. She often picks up food for dad and me. I see her walking next to dad wherever he goes."
Hearing her son's story, Ms. Hien flew into a rage, questioned him about "her" and had a fierce argument with her husband. She criticized and blamed herself, complaining that she didn't dare eat or wear anything, yet her husband "cheated on her".
He tried to explain that it was just a colleague's affection, in recent years he had only seen the father and daughter go on vacation, the daughter was still young so people often asked and cared more.
She just transferred to the office 2 years ago, and she doesn't often go to work with her husband, so she doesn't even know his name... However, no matter how he explains, she still doesn't believe him and even wants to... break up.
Annoyed, he challenged: "Just write the application, I'll sign it. Do you think you're the only one who has to suffer and sacrifice? Do you care about my feelings? I don't need you to sacrifice and turn yourself into a "motherfucker", always regretting money and staying at home like that.
Do you know how many people have commented that you look like your husband's "older sister" now? I don't mean anything by it, because I know you forget yourself to take care of the children and the family. But I'm your husband, would I be happy to hear that?"
Normally her husband rarely got angry, but this time, he poured out his words like a stream. The more he spoke, the more her heart ached. It turned out that all the things she thought she had "sacrificed" herself for to take care of her husband and children had invisibly become "crimes" in his eyes - the crime of being petty, the crime of... being stingy with money, the crime of dressing carelessly, the crime of making herself look old, the crime of not needing any friends...
After a heated argument with her husband, she began to look back at herself. His "criticism" made her "shocked" because of her pride. She was always saving money for him, for her children, for this family, and for no one else. Yet he accused her of being "stingy and stingy with money".
So from now on, I don't have to save every penny anymore, I will set aside a certain amount to take care of my own needs.
Looking back now, Ms. Hien said she is grateful because thanks to the conflict with her husband, she realized that: "Women who know how to beautify themselves and take good care of themselves are also ways to show their love for their husbands and children, making them proud of themselves. We cannot avoid getting old, but we have the ability to make ourselves more beautiful over the years."
Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/bung-tinh-sau-cuoc-xung-dot-voi-chong-vo-biet-cham-chut-cho-ban-than-nhieu-hon-172241122082401257.htm
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