7 sentences from parents to ignite children's confidence

"If you cry again, I won't give you anything." That's what Ms. Lam often shouted at her son every time he cried. The child was extremely worried, afraid that his mother really didn't love him, so he cried even louder.

Another time, the son fell asleep on the table before he could finish his homework. Seeing this, the mother grabbed the child by the ear, dragged him out the door, and scolded him severely. The child was locked outside the door for three or four hours, barefoot, crying and banging on the door. Neighbors came to advise him, but the mother still refused to let her son in the house, and even shouted at everyone: "I am the mother, so I have the right to teach my child."

Children who are often scolded by their parents will always feel inferior. Illustration photo

Being scolded in front of so many people so often, the child always felt self-conscious and kept his head down when he saw the neighbors around.

It can be seen that parents using wrong methods to educate their children can greatly affect their children's confidence and self-esteem, leading to unhappiness and personality changes.

In contrast to the above case, a single mother, working as a fast food delivery girl, has a very special way of giving her child confidence. That is, giving her child the opportunity to see the world.

When the mother is too busy to take care of her, the child will go with her to deliver food. The child always greets every customer warmly and never feels that his status is inferior, and certainly does not think that others will look down on him.

One time, while being scolded by a customer while delivering food late, the mother asked her child in a low voice: "Do you feel ashamed to have to deliver food with me?"

The child shook his head and comforted his mother: "We rely on our own hands to earn money, there's nothing to be ashamed of." The mother was both extremely happy to hear what her son said, but also felt her nose sting with sadness.

The reason why a child can develop confidence and a strong heart is because the mother treats them very well, and always uses communication methods and says "no" to violence in raising them. Parents' words are a source of motivation for children. Confident children need to be encouraged.

1. "No matter what happens, mom and dad will always be there for you"

This is the expression of unconditional love that parents have for their children. A love that does not threaten or compromise. Whether your test scores are good or bad, your parents will still love you. Whether you are gifted in studying, athletics, etc., or not, your parents will always love you. Your parents will always be by your side, accompanying you on every step of your growth and maturity.

Parents' words will give children strength, help them understand that they will never be alone in this life.

Parents will always be there, accompanying their children on every step of their growth and maturity. Illustration photo

2. "What do you think about this, about this...?"

When asking children that question, parents are giving them the right to express their thoughts, feelings and opinions. Children may be young, but they also have their own thoughts and opinions. Parents listening to their children also helps them feel more respected. From there, children also learn to respect others.

Parents' hasty denial of their children's thoughts will make them withdrawn, self-conscious, and afraid to show their abilities in public.

3. "Parents only suggest, the decision is up to you. You have to believe in yourself"

When children grow up, they will need to be independent from their parents. At this time, they need to know how to make choices, decide for themselves about their future, and not rely on their parents. To do this, parents must first give their children the right to be independent.

Parents must know that our words are not the king's decree. Although we are more experienced than our children, we should not control them or give ourselves the right to decide everything for them. Children need to be given the right to choose, to be respected, and to have the freedom to grow up happily.

Children who are fully respected will be less rebellious, think more calmly and become strong, brave and decisive.

Children need to be given the right to choose, to be respected, and to have the freedom to grow up happily. Illustration photo

4. "What is your decision?"

When parents realize that: If they give children the right to choose, they will do better than being ordered or ordered. Children who know how to choose will never make unreasonable demands again. On the other hand, they will soon mature and become much more confident.

5. "Parents believe in you, you will always be the most wonderful child in your parents' hearts"

Children do not do well in exams, their results are only average. Every day, children are under pressure from teachers and friends around them, causing them to lose confidence and easily become discouraged. At this time, a word of encouragement and motivation from parents is extremely important.

Warm words from parents will build confidence in children, giving them more motivation to try harder to study every day.

Warm words from parents will build confidence in children, giving them more motivation. Illustration photo

6. "Parents feel happy and proud when you try to do it"

When your child tries to do something or tries to complete a challenge, no matter what the result is, you should let them know that you appreciate their "effort". In fact, effort is the soul of work.

Whatever you do, without inner strength, you will be very lethargic and your work efficiency will be poor. Without effort, the result, whether you win or lose, will no longer have any meaning.

7. "Mom needs your help, you are very good."

Responsibility is very important. Nurturing responsibility in children means letting them know that they are important.

Why are stay-at-home mothers more prone to various psychological problems, while working mothers are not prone to psychological problems? The main reason is that working mothers feel needed and have a sense of achieving certain successes in the workplace.

Therefore, we need to nurture this awareness in children from an early age, let them do housework, then encourage them and tell them: You are very important, very effective. You have helped me a lot!

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