Father is a senior judge who sent his son a shocking message.

GĐXH - At his son's high school graduation ceremony, he attended as a parent. Instead of flowery words, he wished his son: "From now on, I hope you will be treated unfairly."

John Roberts, born in 1955, is currently the Chief Justice of the U.S. Supreme Court. He once caused a stir with his unconventional parenting philosophy: He didn't want his children to experience only good things, but rather wanted them to experience various forms of suffering, loneliness, and betrayal in life.

In his 2017 graduation speech for his son Jack at Cardigan Mountain Boys' Boarding School in New Hampshire, John Roberts surprised many by beginning with the statement: "Normally, graduation speakers wish you good luck and all the best in the future. I won't. And now I'll tell you why."

John Roberts, Chief Justice of the United States Supreme Court

To begin, John Roberts said: "I am very sorry to have to tell you that the happiest and most comfortable time of your lives is about to become a thing of the past…".

The Chief Justice began his speech to the astonishment of the naive, inexperienced students. The children were utterly surprised because what they expected were good wishes and hopes for a bright future, but he didn't offer that, and here's why:

"From now on, I hope you will be treated unfairly, because only then will you be able to appreciate the value of fairness."

I hope you can experience a little taste of betrayal, because only then will you understand the importance of sincerity.

I'm sorry to say this, but I hope you experience loneliness every day, because only then will you understand that friendships are not something to be taken for granted and that you need to cherish them.

I hope you will experience some bad luck, because only then will you understand the meaning of good fortune in life, so that you will humbly realize that your success is perhaps due to luck, and that the failures of others are not deserved.

And when you face failure—and there will be many more in the future—your opponents will mock and ridicule your suffering. That's when you'll understand just how important it is to maintain composure.

I hope that you will occasionally be looked down upon by others, because only then will you understand how important it is to learn respect and to listen. And I also hope that you will learn enough pain to learn empathy.

Whether we hope for these things or not, sooner or later they will happen in your life. Whether you can absorb the lessons or gain anything from them depends on whether you can see the lessons in your own suffering."

He also advised the children that success comes from those who are not afraid. "If you fail, get up and try again. If you fail a second time, get up and try again."

And if you fail again – that might be the time to think about doing something different."

The judge gave the children a valuable lesson about facing the harsh realities of life.

The Chief Justice also advised the younger generation not to be complacent, not to just be themselves. "Sometimes, you shouldn't be yourself. You have to become better," he said.

Roberts said that suffering can make people better if we remain calm. With calmness, we will have a more profound approach, rather than just a "do it" attitude.

In the final part of his speech, he quoted the Greek philosopher Socrates: "A meaningless life is a life not worth living."

Roberts' speech ended with enthusiastic applause. His message was down-to-earth, coming from the heart of a father hoping his son would grow up to be more mature and ready to face life's challenges.

John Roberts is renowned for his high level of education, having graduated from Harvard Law School. While associated with a powerful and serious image in court, he is also a very warm and thoughtful father.

The important role of a father in his children's upbringing.

During a child's upbringing, the father plays a crucial role in shaping their principles, reasoning, strength, and discipline.

In a family, a mother's love often instills in children confidence and the value of compassion, while a father's love is expressed through discipline and strength. (Illustrative image)

The father is a role model in raising his children with a sense of responsibility.

"Left Right," a Chinese television drama, has been creating a buzz lately with its theme of fatherhood.

In the film, the male character Xiao Lu was born into a family where his parents divorced when he was young, and his mother raised him and his two children alone.

From a young age, Xiao Lu relied heavily on his mother. After getting married, he became indifferent to his family responsibilities.

A study conducted by Beijing General Hospital has shown that, in fact, behavioral issues in children during their growth and maturation are closely related to their fathers.

When children lack a father figure during their upbringing, their hearts lack a strong sense of security and stability.

This trauma leaves children lacking the courage to face life's ups and downs, struggling to develop a sense of responsibility, and prone to choosing avoidance behaviors.

In a family, if the father does not teach his children, especially his sons, how to be responsible and become good men, the child will suffer losses in marriage or career in the future.

The father is the embodiment of reason and order in the family.

A psychological study indicates that the presence of a father is beneficial in preventing the formation of a "closed relationship" between mother and child, while simultaneously facilitating a transition to an "open, three-way relationship" and promoting child development.

In a family, a mother's love is often unconditional, instilling in children faith and the value of compassion in life.

Meanwhile, a father's affection is conditional, expressed through discipline and strength.

When a child's behavior doesn't meet the requirements of general rules, the father will correct and discipline the child, bringing them back into line.

Recently, the program "First Lesson," produced by China's central television station CCTV, invited a graduate student from Peking University to share about the influence of his father on him.

The guest said that when he was in middle school, his studies suffered because of his gaming addiction, and all he could do was cry when his mother told him not to.

At one point, he skipped school to play video games. Eventually, his father had to take a break from work and bring his son back to their hometown.

To set a good example for his son, the father didn't use his cell phone in front of him, nor did he watch television.

While his son studied, he read books. The father accompanied his son throughout his high school years, discussing knowledge, life perspectives, and more.

After years of effort, the young man finally gave up gaming and achieved academic success.

In 2021, the Chinese Ministry of Education conducted a survey on children across different age groups and found that children aged 5-9 responded better to their mothers' guidance than their fathers.

However, from the third grade onwards, children respond better to their father's guidance than their mother's.

Therefore, if the father's role is not affirmed during this period, children are more likely to disregard essential rules.

A father is a companion for his child on their journey through life.

While mothers are considered "weaker," fathers possess greater natural strength, thus taking on a richer range of roles than mothers.

A father's role as a companion has a profound influence on children, from infancy to adulthood.

Tran Hung Dung, a boy from Hainan, China, was diagnosed with autism.

At the age of 5, his father hired a swimming coach to teach him, but the coach quit after only a few lessons.

Having no other option, Mr. Tran took matters into his own hands and trained his exceptional son.

With her father's support, Tran Hung Dung, as an adult, won 5 gold medals at the 11th National Paralympic Games in China.

To this day, despite being autistic, Tran Hung Dung can go to the market alone and is loved by everyone.

Many viewers commented that his strength comes from the strength and courage that his father instilled in him, through their shared journey.

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