How to give lucky money on Tet holiday skillfully, to make children happy but not offend adults?
This is a post shared by Sua Dau's father, an author specializing in writing about parenting on a Chinese social networking site.
Hello everyone, I am Soybean's dad.
When it comes to Tet, we certainly have countless topics to discuss. Tieu Phi has a cousin who is famous for being stingy and calculating. Normally, I never see her face, and she never goes out with friends. But when Tet comes, we see her everywhere. The reason is very simple.
Her family has two children, so every time Tet comes, she "takes advantage" of it to earn some extra money. If someone else's family has two children, she will give each child 100k. But, if someone else's family has one child, she will "generously" give 500k so that the other person can give each of her two children 500k.
Not only is she very "opportunistic" but she is also very calculating. Every year when Tet comes, she quickly takes out the envelope first and puts it in the child's hand as a lucky money gift. When she opens it, she unexpectedly finds 500k inside. My family has one child and hers has two. Every year this happens, my wife doesn't know how to handle it.
If I give each child 500k as lucky money, it will be quite painful. Obviously, I don't dare to buy nice clothes or good cosmetics, why do I have to meet such a calculating person?
Even though she thought so, my wife still gave her two children 500k each. Because she was afraid that people would think she was stingy. This also made my wife uncomfortable.
We sometimes wonder why giving lucky money during Tet is such a headache?
Meaning is lucky money for children
Lucky money means to chase away evil spirits and wish for peace.
According to ancient Chinese legend, a long time ago there was a monster. This monster appeared every New Year's Eve to scare children. Anyone who encountered it would contract a strange disease. If it was severe, they would become stupid. To protect the children, adults would stay up all night to watch over them every New Year's Eve. As long as they stayed up until morning, nothing would happen.
But one day, a family was so busy working during the day that they neglected to stay awake to protect their child that night. Taking this opportunity, the monster sneaked into the house. In that critical moment, a shiny object placed next to the child's pillow scared the monster away.
This shiny object was a red paper bag, inside were 8 sealed coins.
From then on, people put this red paper bag in their pillows to protect children from the monster. The red paper bag is now called li xi.
Behavior of high EQ parents
As times change, lucky money has become a blessing and expectation of adults for children. It is to wish that children welcome Tet with a new spirit, be safe and healthy.
However, nowadays, due to the calculations of many people, the meaning of giving lucky money to children has been distorted. Not only does the amount of money become a measure of the feelings of adults and children, but it also becomes an opportunity to calculate and gain financial benefits.
In fact, many mothers have encountered this situation. I once talked to a mother about this problem. She also had a child at home, and every year when Tet came, she had a headache. Finally, she came up with a solution that many people agreed with.
How much you give depends on your family's financial situation. If your family is quite well off, then give more than the other family. If the other family gives you 500k, then you give them an extra 100k, for a total of 600k.
That way, the other party's family won't suffer a loss and you won't feel too hurt. Because the key point is, the meaning of lucky money is to bring luck.
If your financial situation is not very good, you can take the total amount of money the other side gave you and subtract a little. For example, if their family gave them 500k, you subtract 100k, for a total of 400k. So the other side's two children each get a fair 200k.
However, in this case, the other family may feel a bit disadvantaged, but don't worry too much. We can prepare a small gift for the children such as a greeting card, book, etc. This way is not only polite but also makes the other family not feel embarrassed, so it can be said that it kills two birds with one stone.
Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/khach-li-xi-con-gai-500k-toi-nen-li-xi-cho-2-dua-con-cua-ho-bao-nhieu-nguoi-eq-cao-ung-xu-vua-nhanh-vua-hop-tinh-hop-ly-172250108144925825.htm
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