GĐXH - Even if you are a parent, you still need to cultivate yourself so that your children can follow your example. Parents with good parenting skills will transmit positive energy to their children. Parents without skills can easily lead their children astray.
In life, smart parents will never show off these 4 things:
1. Show off money
In family life, money is always a sensitive and complicated topic. Parents often tend to want to protect their children from unnecessary worries and help them focus on their studies and personal development.
Parents bragging about their finances or openly discussing money issues in front of their children do not have the intended benefits.
When parents talk too much about money, it can put unnecessary pressure on children. Children may feel that they need to achieve similar financial success to make their parents proud or to be worthy of the family.
This can make children uncomfortable sharing about personal pressures or failures, out of fear of not meeting their parents' expectations.
In addition, bragging about money can also cause unhealthy comparisons between children and their friends. This can lead to jealousy, inferiority complex or division among classmates.
Additionally, parents who display attitudes that value money over other values can negatively influence children's views and attitudes about money and success.
Children may develop the notion that money is the most important factor in assessing their own and others' worth, thereby overshadowing the moral and humane values that parents wish to impart.
Finally, when parents do not keep financial information private, children may become anxious about the family's financial situation, no matter the circumstances.
This can cause stress and anxiety for young children who should be living in a peaceful environment and not be responsible for adult burdens.
To avoid these unwanted consequences, parents need to think carefully before bringing up the issue of money in front of their children and should focus on educating them about the value of hard work, responsibility and compassion rather than the value of material things.
Parents bragging about their finances or openly discussing money issues in front of their children do not bring the expected benefits. Illustration photo
2. Brag about your children's achievements
As parents, everyone wants their children to be obedient, study well, and will feel proud, honored, and want to "show off" when their children have good achievements.
However, parents with high EQ will know how to control that desire of theirs, they never show off how good their children are in front of outsiders.
The reason is because they know very well that "there is always a mountain higher than the other". Their children are not the best, so they do not need to show off too much, to avoid their children being compared.
Instead, they will teach their children to be humble, to work hard and try harder when there are still many people out there who are better than them.
They will advise their children to "bow their heads when they are ripe", showing off their achievements to others will only bring them boredom and jealousy, not admiration.
Wise parents will know how to help their children shine in the right way, be recognized and admired by everyone, instead of making their children the object of gossip.
3. Show off your personal life
Personal feelings are private matters. Whether your relationship is flourishing or falling apart, it is not something to be brought out into the open and discussed.
If you are in a good relationship, bragging can make others feel uncomfortable about you especially when they are having emotional problems.
On the other hand, if you share too much about the negative things in your relationship, your child may have to listen to unnecessary gossip and receive ridicule from outsiders.
So, whether you are happy or sad, keep it to yourself. Everyone needs their own space and not everything needs to be shared publicly. Not everyone can fully feel your pain or joy.
If you share too much about the negative things in your relationship, your child may have to listen to unnecessary gossip. Illustration photo
4. Show off your family background
Just like showing off money, showing off family background will also bring a lot of trouble to family and children.
Other people knowing that your family is powerful, has extensive connections or has good relationships with high-ranking or famous people will easily give rise to jealousy and envy.
There will even be people who take advantage of you or your children to gain access to those relationships.
Therefore, wise parents will never flaunt their background. Instead, they will pay attention to cultivating skills and guiding their children in the right direction.
Children raised by such well-bred parents are often very obedient. Even if they don't grow up to be really good, they will still know how to shine.
Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/4-dieu-cha-me-eq-cao-khong-bao-gio-khoe-1722412121626501.htm
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