GDXH - The simple thinking of people with low EQ when speaking makes their work not go smoothly and their career difficult to advance.
In the office environment, the art of communication, listening and being listened to is also very important. Good communication, both sides are satisfied, cooperation efficiency will be higher, if communication, the relationship is not good, old problems not resolved will cause new problems.
It is taboo at work to refuse your superiors' requests. They will think that you are not enthusiastic about your work, do not dare to challenge yourself and work hard. Illustration photo
Unfortunately, many people fail to recognize the hidden meanings behind people’s words at work, nor do they know how to express their thoughts properly. And people with high EQ in the workplace will not casually say the following sentences to their boss:
1. "I know this job better than anyone."
This statement shows arrogance and disrespect for the experience or opinions of others, including superiors.
2. "It's not my fault/it has nothing to do with me"
In a group, each person is often assigned different jobs and tasks, but there are also times when it is necessary to combine collective strength.
In any case, a smart person will never say "it's not my fault", "it has nothing to do with me" if things go wrong.
If you behave this way, your boss will definitely confirm that you are not responsible for your work.
Even if the error is not your fault, you still need to think about how to handle it with everyone in the group.
In fact, at this time, the leaders do not care whose fault it is, but only want to improve the situation.
So, this is also an opportunity for you to demonstrate your ability at work.
3. "I don't have time"
When your boss asks, "Are you busy now?", how should you respond?
If you answer literally that you are busy doing this or that, the boss will feel that they ask one question and the employee answers 10 questions, does the employee not want to take on this task? But if you immediately answer "not busy" is also not appropriate, the boss may think that your workload is small.
What your boss is essentially asking is, "Do you have time to do something for me right now?" So, in this case, there's only one correct answer: "Say it, boss."
At work, it is difficult for the boss to pay attention to the feelings of each person. When there is a task that needs to be handled by an employee, the first thing the leader needs is for the employee to understand, then assign specific tasks.
Many people make the mistake of saying, "I don't have time" when their boss just expressed this idea, even before finishing the sentence, they quickly reply, "I don't have time," showing that they are very busy and don't want to take on the task.
So if we really don't have time to complete this task, how should we phrase it positively?
One suggestion is "structured listening", which means that after receiving the information conveyed by the other person, you should draw 3 ideas in your mind, and put 3 ideas in turn: the other person's feelings, reality and expectations.
In other words, we need to determine the thoughts behind the other person's words, then combine them with facts and emotions to deduce the other person's expectations and then give an appropriate response.
When the workload piles up, we should not complain "I don't have time", but try to think about the wishes and expectations of our superiors, express them positively, and communicate proactively.
This way, you won't offend your boss, but it will also help us communicate more effectively in the workplace and contribute to creating a positive working environment.
At work, no matter how close you are to your boss, you need to stay serious. Illustration photo
4. “I don't want/can't do this project.”
At work, no matter how close you are to your boss, you need to stay serious.
In particular, if your boss wants to assign you a certain task, listen to his/her implementation instead of reacting quickly.
The tasks your boss assigns to you are certainly something they have considered carefully. They may find you suitable for the job or capable of doing it.
So saying "I don't want/can't do this project" will cost you points.
It is taboo at work to refuse a request from a superior.
They will think that you are not passionate about your work, do not dare to challenge yourself and work hard.
Moreover, the above refusal is too blunt, creating an uncomfortable feeling for the listener. You can also easily lose the opportunity for promotion if you keep refusing to lead bluntly.
Instead, if you do not want to take on the task your boss assigns, you can express your reasons. You need to make it clear so that your boss understands and can take on other tasks.
5. "I promise to try harder in the future"
Another sentence that people with high emotional intelligence never reveal to their boss is "I promise to try harder in the future."
In fact, we should make promises at the right time and place, and we must do what we say.
If you keep making empty promises and then leaving them unfulfilled, your boss will definitely be more angry and disappointed.
Not to mention, you should proactively try to work and change yourself instead of making promises.
At work, we need to make efforts every day, every hour to change ourselves, not wait until later to try.
Therefore, "I promise to try harder in the future" is a word that carries no weight. Instead of saying those sentences, you should focus on trying to improve your own abilities.
The result of your efforts is the most satisfactory answer you can give to your leader.
Even if you find yourself in a slump at work lately and want to make up for it in the future, it's not necessary to make promises.
If you don't improve, your superiors will still take your promises and words lightly.
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