People who are silent in these 3 situations are often intelligent and far-sighted.
In life, talking is an art, but sometimes, keeping silent is the wisest choice. People who can keep silent in the following three situations are often intelligent and far-sighted.
1. Don't interfere in other people's conflicts to avoid trouble.
"Even a fair judge cannot resolve family disputes", this saying is indeed very true. In life, whether it is relatives, friends or colleagues, there are always conflicts. At this time, if you rush to get involved, you are likely to get into trouble.
In my company, there was also a colleague who had a dispute over the division of labor in a project.
A colleague wants to play the mediator and convince both sides. As a result, both sides feel he is speaking for the other.
In the end, not only did he fail to solve the problem, but he was also hated by both sides, becoming very isolated in the company.
So when you encounter conflicts with others, especially complex family conflicts or conflicts in difficult-to-resolve interpersonal relationships, it is best not to intervene.
Everyone has their own opinions and ideas, and it is difficult for outsiders to distinguish right from wrong. Forcing yourself to intervene will only put you in an awkward position. It is best to stay silent, let them calm down and solve the problem themselves.
2. Be careful when commenting on other people's fates.
Everyone has their own life trajectory, but some people like to comment on other people's fates and think they know everything. But did you know? It's easy to offend and hurt others by making superficial comments about them.
I have a classmate who did not look for a job after graduating from college but chose to start a business.
When a relative of his found out about this, he started repeatedly saying that my friend was not doing a good job, that he had given up his stable job and was playing around instead, and also asserted that my friend was destined to fail.
My classmate felt very uncomfortable after hearing this. Starting a business is already stressful, and now he was told these words by his family.
The relationship between him and his relative became very bad. Then my friend's startup project became successful, and that relative started saying sarcastic things again, which made my classmate even more upset.
Everyone's fate is in their own hands. Don't advise others to do good without experiencing their own suffering; don't easily judge others' choices and fates. Keeping silent is not only a way to respect others, but also a way to reduce trouble for yourself.
3. Keep quiet about things you can't handle.
In life, we always encounter things beyond our capabilities. At this time, silence is better than saying anything.
I have a friend who saw someone launch an online fundraising campaign, saying that the purpose was to raise money for medical expenses for a seriously ill child. He was particularly sympathetic, so he shared this message on social media, calling for people to donate and also said many heartfelt words.
But then someone doubted the authenticity of the fundraiser, and my friend had no way to verify it. The people he called to donate came to ask him about the situation, but he couldn't answer. In the end, he embarrassed himself so much that everyone doubted him.
Another time, the company needed to solve a technical problem and the leader asked everyone if they had any solutions. One colleague pretended to know everything and made a bunch of suggestions, but in the end none of them were implemented. Not only did he waste everyone's time, but he also slowed down the project. The leader and his colleagues were very dissatisfied.
If we are not able to solve the problem or do not have enough information to make a judgment, we should not give our opinion arbitrarily. Silence does not mean indifference, but a form of self-awareness. Forcing yourself to express your opinion will not solve the problem but will make others think you are untrustworthy and hateful.
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