In a marriage, it is natural for a couple to agree on spending and money. But after all, if you are too strict about money, it will be difficult for both of you to be happy together.
In today's society, many mothers choose to be quite careful about their post-natal nutrition and abstinence. One of them is ordering nutritional meals from outside to ensure that they are nutritious, delicious, and do not cause trouble for the family.
A wife named Phuong posted a story related to her confinement meal. Accordingly, Phuong had given birth to a baby a few days ago. She and her husband live in the city, her parents have passed away, and her husband's parents are old and weak and cannot help take care of them. Therefore, from the beginning, she determined that the birth and raising of the baby would be up to the couple to handle on their own.
"My husband is a calculating and meticulous person. I discovered that after getting married. He really likes to "measure the fish sauce and count the onions", whatever I buy, make, or eat, he always interferes. I am still working and financially independent, but he still always interferes. My husband has caused us to quarrel many times after getting married because of his thriftiness," Ms. Phuong said.
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Even when she was pregnant, she wanted to use good maternity milk and high-quality supplements, but her husband was still sullen. Ms. Phuong was very frustrated. Maybe because her husband was born into a poor family and had a hard life, he was used to that lifestyle. However, when married, the couple should be in harmony with each other in spending matters, but after many conversations they could not resolve it. Ms. Phuong did not know what to do.
She shared: "I'm about to give birth, because both parents can't help, and my husband has to go to work, I decided to order nutritious meals from outside for the first month after giving birth. Another reason I did this is because my husband is a terrible cook. He doesn't know how to cook well at all. I think women after giving birth need to recover their health, so I decided to order right away.
Who would have thought that after knowing the story, my husband would loudly scold and speak harshly. He said that he thought I was the type of woman who knew how to save, be simple and frugal, but who would have thought I was so wasteful. Anyone can have children, so why should I try to be so fancy?
"Do you need a servant to eat? Can't I cook? Why do you have to order something so expensive outside? What a waste," said the husband.
After that, he even went to the center to ask for a refund. Of course, they only returned half of that amount. My husband declared that he would cook for his wife after giving birth. But the food he cooked was really hard for me to swallow. Looking at the food tray, I only felt frustrated and hurt inside. I was so upset that I just wanted a divorce immediately. I gave birth for several days without a single easy-to-swallow meal. I registered at the confinement center, the cost was 10 times more expensive than the confinement meal, but I didn't hesitate. I had to love myself and my child, I could wait until after the confinement period to get a divorce."
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After the story, many people were outraged by Ms. Phuong’s husband’s behavior. Women after giving birth are very tired and need a lot of nourishment. He cannot cook but prevents his wife from spending money on delicious food. This is certainly something that causes a mother to feel hurt and miserable.
Many people also think that Ms. Phuong should really think about divorce. There is nothing more to say about a man who is so stingy and frugal even when it comes to his wife getting pregnant and giving birth.
Many Chinese women decide not to get married.
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