Why do many young couples postpone their weddings?

Fear of debt after wedding

According to the original plan, Ms. Do Phuong Kieu (31 years old), living at 32 Vo Van Hat (Thu Duc City, Ho Chi Minh City) was to get married on March 1. However, she and her fiancé have changed their minds. "I don't know when the wedding will be held," she said.

She said: "The reason for the sudden postponement of the wedding was because of... financial problems. When we heard that the wedding was not going to be held for the time being, many relatives were surprised. They advised us to go ahead with the wedding, because this is an important event in life, regardless of the cost of organizing it. However, those of us involved felt a lot of pressure because of money."

There are couples who have taken wedding photos but... postponed the wedding due to financial pressure (PHOTO: THANH NAM)

Not only Ms. Kieu, there are young people who once planned to become husbands and wives, but also canceled their plans to become brides and grooms. The reason is only one. That is, the cost of organizing a wedding party is beyond their financial capacity.

"With about 2 months left until the planned wedding day, we felt worried because we were facing too much financial pressure. So we both decided to cancel our wedding plans," said Tran Phuc Truong (33 years old), living in alley 17, Duong Van Cam street (Thu Duc city, Ho Chi Minh city).

Sharing about the financial burden from an important day like the wedding day, Nguyen Tien Nhan (28 years old), living at 112 Huynh Van Banh (Phu Nhuan District, Ho Chi Minh City), said: "The restaurant requires a deposit of 70 million VND. That does not include the cost of costumes and decorations from both families. The cost of wedding photos is also expensive... Calculating, we found that the total cost is about 350 million VND. We cannot hope to "use the wedding gift money to cover the cost". Thinking back, we do not want to be in debt right after the wedding, so let's wait for the wedding."

On the social network Threads, there are also many posts by young people sharing stories of arguing with their families just because of the wedding. "We wanted to organize it on a small scale, but our families forced us to have a big wedding, renting a luxurious venue to "show off" to our relatives and acquaintances. If we did as our families wanted, it would be easy to fall into debt after the wedding. So we chose to postpone the wedding," said Ms. Nguyen Thi Thao Trinh (32 years old), working in Duc Hoa 3 Industrial Park (Long An province).

According to many young people, to organize a wedding, a large amount of money is needed to pay for: wedding photography, wedding decoration, restaurant rental... (PHOTO: THANH NAM)

To avoid stress, prioritize a minimalist style.

The writer's observations at some wedding centers in Ho Chi Minh City show that costs are getting higher and higher. For example, the price of a wedding restaurant at an address on Au Co Street (Tan Binh District) is up to 6 million VND/table. Meanwhile, the price of a wedding restaurant at an address on Ly Chinh Thang Street (District 3) is up to nearly 7 million VND/table.

"Suppose inviting about 250 - 300 guests, with an average price of about 6 million VND per table, it will cost about 150 - 180 million VND. That's not including the wedding photography service of about 15 - 20 million VND. The cost of decorating the wedding party is also not small, about 20 - 30 million VND. The cost of wedding invitations, rental fees, and many other expenses... That means to take care of the wedding, you need several hundred million VND. This amount of money makes people with low incomes and average salaries feel pressured," said Mr. Vu Tien Khoa (31 years old), living in Duc Khai apartment building (District 7, Ho Chi Minh City).

According to Mr. Khoa: "My girlfriend and I planned to get married last February. We envisioned a wonderful wedding. But looking at the expenses, we were a bit... confused. Many of the expenses were too high, beyond our financial capacity, so we had to postpone the wedding. We didn't want to have a lavish wedding and then have to "work" to pay off the debt for many years to come."

It is possible to organize a minimalist wedding to reduce financial pressure (PHOTO: THANH NAM)

Mr. Do Thanh Binh (36 years old), working at 54 Lieu Giai (Ba Dinh District, Hanoi), said: "If couples feel that their finances are not enough, it is necessary to temporarily postpone the wedding. Because I was wondering whether to hold the wedding or not. And when I decided to hold it, I had to borrow money from many places. Then I had to continuously spend frugally for many years in order to have money to pay off the debt."

Mr. Binh added: "From my own story, I see that many young people today are under a lot of pressure because their families have the concept that "we only get married once in our lives, so we have to make the wedding party grand". This concept makes many young people "blindly" organize a grand wedding. And the end result is being drowned in debt".

A member of the social network Threads said: "After officially becoming husband and wife, we had to constantly argue about the debt we borrowed to organize the wedding. From then on, the pressure and conflicts continued to lead to separation, then divorce, just a few months before the wedding day."

According to many opinions, it is necessary to change concepts such as "weddings must be organized grandly", "must book many banquet tables"... (PHOTO: THANH NAM)

According to psychologist Do Thao Hanh, Ho Chi Minh City University of Education, it is true that many couples postpone their weddings due to financial pressure.

"I think that both young people and modern parents need to change the concept of "having a grand, grand wedding". Don't try to organize lavish, expensive weddings with borrowed money just to "not be shy, not be embarrassed in front of relatives and friends". Instead, you can organize a simple but meaningful wedding. Because the ultimate goal of a wedding is to have a sustainable, happy married life. Not to have had a grand wedding with the cost of organizing up to several hundred million VND", Ms. Hanh said.

According to this psychologist, the wedding belongs to the bride and groom, so they have full authority to decide on the scale of the organization.

"Currently, there are many couples who organize their weddings in a minimalist style. They take photos with their phones or ask friends to help them. They design the wedding space themselves. Then they organize it in small, cozy spaces. They also reduce the scale, only inviting relatives and really close people. Thanks to that, they have reduced expensive costs," said Ms. Hanh./.

According to Thanh Nien Newspaper

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