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Chuseok, the Korean Mid-Autumn Festival, is one of the country's biggest holidays. But for many married women, it's a terrible time.
During the holidays, most brides have to take on the responsibility of cooking, preparing food, drinks, etc. Many hours of cooking, cleaning and serving leave many people exhausted.
Kim, an office worker, said she was all too familiar with the stress married women go through during the holidays, as her mother had endured the same.
Since she was little, she felt her mother's hardship every time Chuseok approached.
"I understand that Chuseok is a time to pay respect to ancestors and share family values. But family values can also be shared in restaurants, rather than at home."
A traditional table for the Mid-Autumn Festival in Korea. Photo: Korea Times
The Mid-Autumn Festival is said to be the source of pressure and tension between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law in Korea.
The results of a recent survey show that daughters-in-law in the land of kimchi are most haunted by the question "when will you come home for the Mid-Autumn Festival?" from their mothers-in-law.
The survey was conducted by two matchmaking companies, Only You and Bien Aller, from September 2 to 7, with 264 divorced women aged 33 to 65 and 264 divorced men aged 35 to 75.
According to survey results, 28% of women feel most stressed when their mother-in-law asks about their Mid-Autumn Festival plans.
Other causes of stress for women during the holiday were "planning Chuseok with husband" (24.2%), "preparing food for Chuseok" (22%) and "hearing news about Chuseok" (18.6%).
When asked about the most difficult family relationships during Chuseok, female respondents most often mentioned "mother-in-law" (30.7%) and "sister-in-law" (27.7%).
Meanwhile, men said the most awkward relationships were with their "father-in-law" (31.1%) and "mother-in-law" (24.6%).
However, not all holiday experiences were negative. More than 30% of women said their happiest moment was "getting permission from my husband's family to go to my parents' house."
In addition, 24.6% of women feel satisfied when "the burden is reduced by the husband's family" and 17% are satisfied when "receiving special attention".
In contrast, 32.6% of men felt happiest when "having their abilities recognized by their wife's family", followed by "receiving special attention" (26.1%) and "being shown gratitude" (23.1%).
Commenting on the survey results, Son Dong-gyu, CEO of Only You, said: "Mid-Autumn Festival is one of the biggest traditional holidays in Korea.
While older people prioritize keeping traditions, younger generations are less concerned. We need to respect each other's views so that the holiday does not become a burden for anyone."
Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/nang-dau-han-quoc-so-nhat-mot-cau-hoi-cua-me-chong-moi-dip-trung-thu-172240918155939093.htm
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