GĐXH - Ms. Ho and her mother-in-law often argued about the division of resettlement compensation money. Angry but unable to do anything, Ms. Ho felt resentful and resentful.
Ms. Vuong (Shanghai, China) lives with her second son because her husband and eldest son both passed away early.
The son loved his mother and wanted her to be buried with his father and brother, so he bought a 3-compartment plot of land in the cemetery, reserved one compartment to build a longevity grave (also known as a longevity cave - a pre-built tomb for the living), and placed a longevity stele engraved with his mother's name.
Not long ago, Ms. Vuong went to the cemetery to clean up her family's grave and discovered that her longevity grave had been sealed with cement and her name on the longevity stele had also been erased.
After going to the cemetery management agency to check the surveillance camera, Ms. Vuong was shocked to discover that her daughter-in-law, surnamed Ho, was the one who did it.
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It turned out that Ms. Vuong and Ms. Ho often argued about dividing the resettlement compensation money.
Angry but unable to do anything, Ms. Ho felt full of resentment and blame, so she vented her anger on her mother-in-law's longevity point.
After learning the truth, Ms. Vuong was so mentally traumatized that she fell into a state of depression and stopped eating and drinking.
Finally, she decided to file a lawsuit with the Shanghai Pudong New Area People's Court, hoping that her daughter-in-law would be punished.
The case was recently brought to trial, attracting public attention. The court held that activities such as buying a grave and erecting a stele are folk customs that are in accordance with public order and should be protected by law. The inscription on the tombstone clearly states that this is the grave for Mrs. Vuong, next to the graves of her husband and eldest son.
Thus, the user and the purpose of use are specific and exclusive. Ms. Wang is still alive, under normal circumstances these things cannot be arbitrarily changed.
The court also pointed out that Ms. Ho's actions violated Ms. Vuong's right to use the cemetery, and she must bear civil responsibility and restore Ms. Vuong's grave to its original state.
In addition, this daughter-in-law's behavior also violated Ms. Vuong's spiritual interests, so she had to pay compensation of 5,000 yuan (more than 17 million VND).
After the court's ruling, neither side appealed, the ruling took effect immediately.
3 secrets to help mother-in-law and daughter-in-law live together in harmony
In fact, any relationship can be smooth if we know how to "operate" it. The mother-in-law - daughter-in-law relationship can affect the marital relationship.
Therefore, never be afraid to face it, on the contrary, find a way for both sides to be more harmonious and in harmony with each other. There are 3 secrets that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should keep in mind when treating each other.
As a daughter-in-law, instead of fighting against your mother-in-law, you two should talk more and be on the same "side". Illustration photo
Respect and accept each other
Whatever you say, the daughter-in-law and mother-in-law are not actually related by blood or kinship. They are related to each other only because of a man.
Therefore, from the beginning, both parties should have a mindset of respect for each other. Marriage is a matter between two families, not just between the young couple.
Therefore, brides should never think that they get married and their husband's family doesn't care.
An unhappy relationship will lead to a marriage full of unnecessary conflicts and quarrels.
As soon as they become brides, most brides are not used to the old concepts and living habits of their mother-in-law or husband's family.
In such a situation, if one does not know how to respect and accept each other, it can easily cause conflict. The daughter-in-law should try to understand, get along with and respect her mother-in-law.
On the contrary, the mother-in-law also accepts and helps her daughter-in-law adapt to the new life. Both understand and respect each other, which will reduce unnecessary conflicts.
Create common goals and work towards them
As a daughter-in-law, instead of fighting against your mother-in-law, you two should talk more and be on the same "side".
If the daughter-in-law loves her child, the mother-in-law loves her grandchild. Both should take advantage of this to close the gap between them, helping the family to be more harmonious.
Mother-in-law wants to take care of her grandchildren, daughters-in-law should calmly accept her kindness.
Both sides have the goal of raising the baby well, all for the benefit of the third generation in the family, then naturally there will be unity and happiness.
There are not many things that a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can do together, but matters related to grandchildren are a real exception to help lift up the relationship between the two sides.
If there is any problem between the two of us, then sit down and discuss it carefully. Don't rush into arguing or creating a big disagreement. It's all for the future of our children.
Know how to "stay apart"
Keeping a certain distance can actually minimize unnecessary conflict.
As soon as you become a daughter-in-law, you should never have high expectations that your mother-in-law will see you as a daughter.
Be polite, respectful and know how to keep your distance. Being too close too quickly and too much at the beginning sometimes causes the opposite reaction.
However, saying not to be too close does not mean to be far away from each other. Know when to care and when to give each other space.
A daughter-in-law who is too distant from her mother-in-law will also have problems.
In fact, the best mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship should not involve too much interference in each other's affairs, this will avoid many conflicts.
Never let the fear of conflict dampen your excitement at the start of married life.
Hopefully, all daughters-in-law and mothers-in-law will have reasonable and proper behavior so that the relationship is always good and full of joy.
Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/tuc-toi-chuyen-chia-tien-nha-dat-con-dau-lien-lam-chuyen-khien-me-chong-bang-hoang-17225012218061971.htm
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