Family conflicts when husband and wife do not have the same interests

Family conflicts sometimes start from different interests between husband and wife. If both sides are not skillful in reconciling, it can easily lead to discord and breakdown.

mâu thuẫn gia đình - Ảnh 1. — Illustration: DANG HONG QUAN

Family conflicts often stem from differences in interests and opinions, as in the case of Ngoc My and her husband when simple habits cause stress.

Since accepting the proposal, Ngoc My (28 years old, living in Cau Giay District, Hanoi) has been given a list of issues by her future husband that need to be changed, such as: not buying clothes online; not chatting on the phone too much...

When they lived together, her husband even banned her habit of reading American comics. According to him, no one who is about to become a mother reads comics, because outsiders would laugh at them.

Family conflict because of differences

Once, My's husband threatened to burn the comic books she had saved since middle school. After that, the couple had a heated argument because My felt insulted by her husband.

"He likes to collect cars, I have no opinion. But my wife interferes in everything. I feel tired of having to fight against my husband's opinions" - My said.

Even her desire to go out with her friends was hindered and made difficult by her husband. She always lived in a state of inhibition and discomfort because she had to strain herself to please her husband.

Meanwhile, although living together for nearly three years, Mr. Hung Minh (40 years old, Thanh Khe District, Da Nang) and his wife always disagree about their interests. Mr. Minh has a strong taste, likes watching football and playing sports.

As for Ms. Nguyet (Mr. Minh's wife), she likes sweets, is fond of reformed opera and bolero music. Every dish she cooks must be sweeter than usual. On weekends, she likes to gather with friends to chat, shop and go to karaoke.

Because of their different eating habits and daily preferences, they often argued with each other. Minh criticized his wife for only being interested in having fun and not caring about her health.

In Ms. Nguyet's eyes, her husband is too crazy about football, using the excuse of playing sports to hang out and drink.

Just enough privacy, just enough sharing

When they first start dating and throughout their relationship, couples often have similar interests, but that similarity seems to gradually decrease "when we get married". Day by day, by middle age, no one wants to give in to the other in choosing this or that.

Even though many people have gone through a long period of dating, marriage, and living together for decades, how many people are exactly the same in personality, thoughts, or concerns?

If it is a healthy hobby that does not affect family happiness, you should encourage your partner to participate. Gradually, by sharing with each other, differences in thinking, tendencies, and habits can be reconciled when both of you truly know how to think for each other and for each other.

On the contrary, sometimes the preferences of the husband or wife cause the marriage to crack, even break down due to the stubbornness or ego of the people involved.

Avoid forcing your partner to nurture hobbies if they don't want to. This will only make the simmering conflict worse.

When a person is respected, supported, and given the opportunity to pursue their interests by their spouse, they will feel more loved. It is the way they accept and reconcile the differences between two people that determines the sustainability of their marriage.

A married life still needs private space and time for each person to indulge in their own healthy passions. Therefore, respecting the interests of others is also an opportunity for each person to broaden their knowledge and discover new things.

Take up a new hobby

After being married for more than ten years, Thanh Hoang (42 years old, living in Sa Dec, Dong Thap) suddenly became interested in photography.

Mr. Hoang said: "That was also the time when my family started to have disagreements. Because the investments for camera bodies, lenses, and accessories were quite expensive. But fortunately, my wife gradually understood and now always supports her husband's side job."

According to Mr. Hoang, he showed his family that this job can make money and not just waste money.

In his spare time, he teaches her how to take photos so she can support him during busy times like Tet, graduation photo season...

Khi vợ chồng không đồng sở thích - Ảnh 2.

Husband and wife love each other until their hair turns gray

Time can change many things, but one thing that is difficult to change is the love that couples have for each other. Even though they are old, the love of many couples is still as passionate as in the beginning.

Source: https://tuoitre.vn/mau-thuan-gia-dinh-khi-vo-chong-khong-dong-so-thich-20250330101350067.htm