No nursing home, no caregiver, no bothering children, this lifestyle seems ideal but there are still issues to note.
The article is the story of a couple in their 70s in China. They have retired, but do not live with their children and grandchildren, but choose to live separately, taking care of each other in their old age.
Independent and peaceful old age
My wife and I have made plans for our retirement. We have decided not to live in a nursing home, hire a caregiver, or ask our children for help.
We live in a small two-story house in the suburbs. Although we are both old, we are still healthy and can take care of ourselves. We decided to rely on each other, take care of each other without anyone's help until we are old.
With this lifestyle, our relationship is more harmonious. Before, we often argued over trivial matters. But now we respect, sympathize, and encourage each other more.
Not only does this lifestyle improve my relationship with my wife, it also helps my children. My children are quite busy with work, and if they add taking care of their parents, the pressure is even greater. Seeing me living happily and healthily like this, my children are also reassured.
Not long ago, my wife and I were both sick and not feeling well. My children called to offer to come and take care of me, but I told them not to let them focus on work.
We believe in this way of life more and more. It gives us a sense of happiness and pride. We can enjoy a happy life without anyone's help.
The downside of "taking care of each other"
One day, I suddenly discovered that my wife started to show unusual signs. Her personality became quiet, she often sat alone on the balcony, and she started to neglect her housework. This made me extremely worried.
I tried talking to her, but she kept avoiding me.
My son came to visit, after observing, he said with a serious face: "Mom has signs of depression, this situation cannot be ignored, we should take mom to the hospital for a check-up."
But when we talked, she firmly refused to go, saying she was fine.
This left me at a loss, I didn't know what to do to make her go for treatment. Because of this, the atmosphere in my house went from being happy to now being tense.
The following days, our relationship was a bit unusual, I discovered that my personality and habits were a bit different from hers.
Normally I like to walk and talk with her, but now she talks like that is a waste of energy. Our conflicts are becoming more and more obvious. I see more and more that just because we take care of each other does not mean everything goes smoothly, and more and more things about our incompatibility are revealed. Until one day, I thought I couldn't persuade her, so I just let her be.
So our argument got bigger and bigger, no one wanted to be the first to apologize.
When our children saw us like that, they talked to us. They advised us to be more tolerant of each other, but the situation did not improve.
I decided to put my ego aside and make up with my wife first. Sure enough, everything was resolved smoothly. If, day after day, her and I had conflicts that were not resolved, and we continued like that, each living our own lives, life would be really suffocating.
Old couples rely on each other, need understanding and sympathy. I believe that as long as both sides listen, they will overcome this difficult period.
Source: https://giadinh.suckhoedoisong.vn/vo-chong-u70-khong-phien-con-cai-khong-vao-vien-duong-lao-1-cach-nghi-huu-ly-tuong-nhat-nhung-can-luu-y-dieu-nay-17225021108231852.htm
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