In the children's memories, Mr. Hua Buu Ba was the eldest brother who studied very well, often at the top of the class. In the family, he was a good, gentle son who loved his younger siblings very much.
Although he had many children, his parents gave him a good education. Every day, he went to two schools – one in the morning and one in the afternoon.
If he had grown up in the arms of his parents, in the love and care of his siblings, his life would not have been so bad, said his sister, Ngoc Chac.
But one time, "anger lost his mind", he left home and his life turned to another page.
Mr. Buu Ba took a photo with his friends when he was still living with his parents.
This year, at the age of 63, having lost his right arm, he lives alone on the farm, where there is no one around, only the sun and wind of Ninh Thuan land. He takes care of chickens, sheep and 7 hectares of land for people.
For him, the job is not hard, but the loneliness of living here and doing this job is not something everyone can bear.
There is no one living there, so there is no electricity, rice, fish sauce... He uses electricity from 2 solar panels. Food is delivered, so he eats whatever he has. According to the government's policy, he receives 1 million VND/month in support for the disabled.
He has a foster mother's family, everyone treats him like family. Occasionally, he visits his siblings who live 5km away from the farm, but he absolutely refuses to stay in crowded places.
Up to now, no one in the family knows for sure why Mr. Buu Ba left home. His younger sister, Hua Ngoc Chac, said, "It seems like mom lost money and scolded him, making him angry." As for him, he said, "I was beaten by mom, so I left because I was angry with her."
But he also said that when he was little, his grandmother used to read his horoscope and said, "If you leave, you will lose your arm, and if you don't leave, your mother will die before you."
He still remembers those words of his grandmother - the person who took care of and loved him during the first 7 years of his life in Soc Trang.
Mr. Buu Ba lives alone on the farm, looking after sheep and chickens for others.
At the age of 7, his father took him from Soc Trang back to Saigon to go to school. He had a younger brother named Hua Buu Dat. The two brothers often sold pinwheels together. One time, Dat got lost.
Mr. Dat had been lost for 2 months when Mr. Ba left home. More than 1 month later, Mr. Dat was brought home by the army, to the joy and sadness of his family. Mr. Ba was still missing. That year was 1975.
Mr. Hua Bia – father of 7 children, worked for the Republic of Vietnam government before 1975. After liberation, he stayed at the old house waiting for his son to return, while his wife – Mrs. Phan Thi Chi took the children back to their hometown in Soc Trang to live. After a while, the old man also returned.
“The day Ba left, my mother suffered a lot. She cried a lot and wanted to commit suicide. But thinking about her children, she tried to live on” – Ms. Ngoc Chac shared about her mother after her brother left home.
Many years later, when he saw a bus conductor in Ca Mau named Mam who looked like his nephew, Mrs. Mui - an aunt in the family asked him about it, but Mr. Mam said he could not remember anything about the memory.
Mr. Mam was taken to Soc Trang to meet Mr. Bia's family . Mr. Bia confirmed that Mam was not his son. But from then on, the family considered Mr. Mam as an adopted son. Mr. Mam also considered Mr. Bia's family as his own flesh and blood.
He lost his right arm at the age of 15 in a sea accident.
As for Mr. Ba, after leaving home, he was adopted by a family with 8 children. Seeing that his adoptive mother was poor, he volunteered to go back to his maternal grandparents' house to herd cows to earn a living, and earn money to help his parents raise his younger siblings.
Some time later, he followed his uncle to the sea and had an accident at work. The machine cut off his arm. When he opened his eyes, he found himself lying in a hospital bed, still not remembering what had happened. His sister told him that he had just remembered the accident.
From then on, he never mentioned his amputated arm again. That year, he was only 15 years old.
Although he was not favored by life, he still lived peacefully and gently like that. He cherished every bit of love from his adoptive mother and siblings in his second family.
His adoptive mother tried to divide the land and buy him a house three times, but he refused and gave it to his siblings. His adoptive mother died suddenly in an accident when Mr. Buu Ba was over 30 years old.
He hid his sadness in his heart, cried a lot without letting his siblings know. After a while, he moved to the fields to live near his mother's grave. He has lived alone ever since.
He had a daughter who had lived a rare period of happiness with a woman.
In fact, there was a time when his life seemed different.
He went to herd cows and met a woman who sold rice. She wanted to ask him for a child. He knew her intention and did not mistake it for love.
The two moved in together in the farm. After living together for a year, their feelings blossomed. They considered each other husband and wife.
But when the baby in her womb took shape, her family came and took their daughter away. He was alone again until 7 years later, when she took her daughter to visit him just once and then they both left again.
He still remembers, "the little girl was born in the year of the Rat, very smart".
Now, his daughter is about 16-17 years old. He still believes that one day, she will come to see him. As for his biological family, with his parents and 6 siblings, since the day he left home, he has tried not to think about them.
The reason why he came to the program As if there had never been a separation was because Mr. Nguyen Thanh Tam, an officer of Nui Chua National Park, occasionally visited his house. He contacted the program and provided Mr. Ba's information so that he could find his family.
When contacting the family, the first person the program met was Mr. Hua Buu Doan - a younger brother of Mr. Ba. Mr. Doan was initially quite indifferent when he heard the news about his brother, then he panicked when the program mentioned "Big Dwarf" - Mr. Ba's nickname.
Because at first Mr. Doan thought people were joking, then he thought the brother the program mentioned was Mr. Mam who had passed away. When the name "Big Dwarf" was mentioned, he knew for sure that the person being talked about was Mr. Ba.
Meeting on the stage of As if there had never been a separation , many tears were shed. To prepare for this meeting, Mr. Buu Ba dyed his hair, wore a new shirt and did not drink alcohol for nearly a month.
Mrs. Ngoc Chac, while sitting below watching the report about her brother's life after leaving home, kept wiping away tears. Perhaps everyone felt sorry for her unfortunate brother.
On stage, she hugged her brother tightly, sobbing as she recalled memories: “Mom missed you so much. At the end of her life, Mom kept mentioning your name. Grandma cried a lot too. Every full moon of the 8th lunar month, Grandma reminded me that “Big Dwarf” loved to eat Pia cake…”.
"The man who lived with the wind" found his family after 50 years
After 17 years of production and broadcasting on many TV channels, As if there had never been a separation (NCHCCCL) is proud to have built a very useful data system in connecting seekers and lost people.
On the website haylentieng.vn , viewers can look up information related to their lost relatives by typing in their name, year of birth, hometown, etc. Thanks to this data system, many families have been reunited.
With the desire to become a social activity nurtured by individuals on a regular and long-term basis, for many years now, the program team has initiated the fundraising activity "Loaves of bread connecting loved ones", in which each person contributes 20 thousand VND/month to the fund or e-wallet.
To accompany NCHCCCL in building funds and continuing the journey to help reunite thousands of Vietnamese families, in recent years, VietNamNet newspaper has become a bridge to call for support from readers.
Source: https://vietnamnet.vn/bo-nha-di-vi-gian-me-nguoi-dan-ong-song-don-doc-o-ninh-thuan-da-ve-sau-50-nam-2368802.html
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