1. Note about seating
In a society that values etiquette, seating arrangements at a banquet need to take many factors into consideration, so that everyone feels comfortable.
Therefore, in many cases, seating can also clearly show the status, size and relationship of each person.
For example, at family gatherings, the priority is usually respect for elders and attention to children.
Meanwhile, if it is a meeting in an office, priority is given in order of position, but with meetings with friends, usually the organizer will be the "host", and the others will be the guests.
Children can sit anywhere, but adults who sit haphazardly will appear to be taking up space, which shows that their EQ is very low.
So, it is advisable to arrange everyone to sit first, then yourself. This demonstrates high emotional intelligence and also reflects each person's understanding of social etiquette.
In many cases, seating can also clearly show the status, size and relationship of each person. Illustration photo
2. Always make others feel comfortable
The "Hedgehog Principle" teaches us that if you treat others with hostility, they will respond to you with the same attitude. If you want to receive goodwill from others, you need to proactively show your goodwill.
There is a saying: "Details reflect personality." People who are able to consider things carefully are like a cotton shirt, fitting comfortably. People with an indifferent attitude, no matter how beautiful their appearance is, after a period of contact, others will still feel uncomfortable.
Meals are an important occasion in social communication, it seems that all kinds of emotions are easily expressed during meals. For example, the whole family gathering together with delicious food during the holidays is indispensable; when friends from far away come, warm hospitality is necessary; and when working with customers, paying attention to their tastes and favorite dishes to show sincerity is inevitable.
So, to judge whether a person has a high EQ or not, just observe how they participate in a meal. A person with a high EQ will pay attention to even the smallest details, while a person with a low EQ will do the opposite.
3. Pay attention to each person's taste
If you sit at the dining table and only care about your favorite dishes, focus on picking up delicious dishes, and eat according to your own preferences, then your purpose of participating is simply to eat and drink. Other opportunities that come from the table are quickly overlooked.
Meanwhile, people with high EQ often pay more attention to communicating and chatting with people.
Through such short interactions, they get to know people’s tastes and preferences. From there, they can order dishes accordingly.
This method helps them skip the detailed, cumbersome steps like asking each person what they want to eat, and also shows the care and thoughtfulness of the person ordering the food.
Ordering food seems simple, but there can be many unpredictable variables. It’s not just about deciding between meat and vegetarian, bold or light, but also about whether some people are allergic to certain foods.
If you only order what you like, people will think you are selfish and don't know how to grasp the overall situation. But if you know in advance what your boss likes to eat, what your colleagues like to eat, and if anyone has any food taboos, this is a pretty comprehensive preparation.
So you should be careful in choosing dishes, don't wait until the dish is served before frantically changing.
4. Eat politely
Any habit of drinking too much or eating too much or eating carelessly, spilling, leaving leftovers, making noise at the dinner table will make the other person uncomfortable, just a glance can see the level of emotional intelligence.
This lack of tact often leads to them being judged poorly by others, affecting their social relationships and career.
Meanwhile, people with high EQ often eat politely and moderately, creating a pleasant feeling for those at the table.
They know how to adjust their behavior so as not to disturb others, paying attention to how to use chopsticks, spoons, or other dining rules.
Not only does this show respect, it also shows that they care about the feelings of those around them.
People with high EQ often eat politely and moderately, creating a comfortable feeling for those at the table. Illustration photo
5. Subtle conversation
There is a story like this: An office girl brought her boyfriend home. The family gathered for dinner, the girl's parents looked at their future son-in-law from every angle and felt dissatisfied.
The young man proactively expressed his current situation: "I work as a surgeon at a hospital, with a monthly income of over 50 million VND."
The girl's mother replied, "Our housekeeper also earns around that much."
The atmosphere instantly became awkward. Luckily, the girl's brother interrupted, "Mom, hurry up and eat, the food is getting cold."
Starting a conversation about money, using money to judge a person, making comparisons, is obviously very impolite and can be hurtful to others.
When eating, the content and level of conversation must be tactful; otherwise the conversation will become very trivial. The ancient saying goes: "Good words warm three winters, bad words cool six months."
People with low EQ often tell inappropriate stories to embarrass others, while sophisticated people like to tell elegant stories that bring a sense of joy.
6. Know how to read the situation
This sign is often shown through countless small, nameless actions, from arranging seats, observing people around, having appropriate words and actions... When the person next to them needs help with something, they will immediately pay attention to that detail from the first time and immediately step in to handle it.
On the contrary, there are many people who are afraid of trouble, even though they see and understand the situation, they choose to "ignore" it, just focus on chatting or doing their own work. Their way of doing things is not wrong at all, but certainly, they will lose the opportunity to "score sympathy points" with the people around them.
Regardless of whether in life or at work, people who can read situations, have a more intelligent way of expressing themselves, and have higher emotional intelligence are usually quite careful and meticulous. They also create goodwill, build good networks of relationships, and are more likely to succeed because of that.
You can observe it from real life, the behavior of these people will not be too obvious, vulgar. They can handle it in an orderly manner, making people admire.
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