Many people love the commemorative flower associated with an unforgettable old love - Illustration: TUOI TRE CUOI
Every blooming season, the husband is very attentive, taking his motorbike to see the flowers everywhere on the weekends. Sometimes he even asks his wife for permission to go hiking to see the flowers for a few days with his close friends, excitedly using the flowers as the wallpaper on his phone, Facebook...
Is it normal to not forget an old love?
The wife accidentally discovered that her husband's ex-lover's account had the name of a flower, with the introduction "a love that will be remembered forever", and occasionally liked and liked her husband's flower photos.
After asking more, she learned that they had a deep love in high school. But because of family opposition, the two did not become a couple.
She shared her feelings of confusion and fear because she felt her husband had never forgotten their deep love in the past, and did not know what to do because "the solid happiness that had been built for years was now shaken just because of a name".
The online community is also divided into two factions and gives very opposite advice.
Many people left comments saying they had similar experiences to the wife. Account KN shared: "My husband also had a love affair like that. When we first fell in love, he also told and talked about it. But I didn't think anything of it because it was in the past.
After a while, my husband stopped mentioning it. People will remember and will not be able to forget what they did not have. I advise you to leave the past behind and live in the present. Wherever the rain comes, it will cool your face."
Another account said that love and affection are complicated and "have to pretend not to know anything" when discovering that her husband still has feelings for his ex.
In hundreds of comments, many opinions from the online community agree with the view that everyone will have a memorable love so there is nothing to worry about. Therefore, they blame the wife for making a big deal out of a small matter, there is nothing to be worried about.
- He is yours now. Above all, he loves his family and children, that's enough.
- Beautiful love is unfinished love. It's normal for your husband to not forget the beautiful student love. Don't think too much. Because maybe to your husband, that girl is just a beautiful memory. The important thing is to still love your wife and children, and not do anything wrong.
Some people advise the wife to "keep quiet" and let the past rest in peace: "Your husband is better than many other people's husbands. He still takes good care of the family and doesn't have any problems. He shouldn't look for trouble with women. Think less and life will be easier."
Many people also shared that at first they liked a flower because of their ex-lover, but gradually they got used to it. Account NC commented: "I like the Lagerstroemia, partly because it's beautiful, partly because it's the flower that my ex-lover and I both liked before. When we build a house in the future, I will plant two Lagerstroemia trees in the garden. That's a beautiful memory, but to be honest, I love the tree, but I don't like the person anymore."
But just ignore it and say nothing?
However, many opinions also say that the wife in this situation cannot ignore it and live because it is better not to know, than to know and still be sad at the end of her life. The solution they give is that the wife needs to clarify and share with her husband. That is also a way to cherish the present.
- I think you should talk clearly with your husband. Tell him that the past is in the past, so keep it in mind. If there is still contact or feelings, how can you not be sad and not care? If it is the past, then you should not show it or repeat it again.
- I know everyone has a small corner of memories, but this is your husband living in the past and still remembering his ex every day. If I were you, I would talk frankly with your husband. If you keep quiet and think about it, only you will suffer.
- Sometimes your husband may not be able to resolve the issues in his heart. If your husband truly loves his wife and children, he will not let you be troubled. You should find a time for the two of you to talk and resolve your concerns.
Meanwhile, many people say they will "take action" if their husband still has feelings for his ex because they think it is emotional infidelity.
- If I were a wife, I would buy flowers and put them everywhere in the house, and cook flower hotpot for my husband to eat.
- The past should be left in the past. Seeing what flowers your wife likes and then asking her to go see them when they're in season, is that romantic? And here, every time the flowers are in season, he asks his wife's permission to go see them because they're his ex's favorite flowers!
What do you think about yourself or your spouse still showing signs of missing your ex? Do you consider interacting with your ex to be normal? Please share your stories and feelings at [email protected]. Tuoi Tre Online thanks you.
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