After a decade of research into the science behind happiness in life, American author Stephanie Harrison recently published the book New Happy .
In the book, author Harrison shares that there are two reasons why we don't have the quality relationships we expect in life.
First of all, we are not taught the skill of building good relationships. In fact, this is a skill that needs to be cultivated.
Second, we live in a fast-paced world where we are forced to sacrifice family time to complete work and other responsibilities.
When you thank your children, you will help both you and your children feel happy (Illustration: Vecteezy).
Meanwhile, the relationship between parents and children is like any other relationship, requiring parents to know how to build and create good values, so that children always trust and share with their parents throughout their journey of growing up and even in the future.
No matter how busy life is, parents still need to spend time and effort to help their children feel their love through asking and talking. Below are 10 things thoughtful parents should often say to their children.
"How are you really feeling?"
In fact, even in the closest relationships, we often suppress our emotions, and children have this tendency too. By asking the question "How are you feeling?", parents will help their children understand that their emotions are something that parents are very concerned about. In addition, when children can clearly name their emotions, they will find it easier to face and deal with their own problems.
"Tell me a little more"
When your child trusts you to share a special story, ask them more in-depth questions to get more information. Paying attention to their thoughts and feelings when faced with a certain event will help them understand that their parents really care about them.
"Thank you, son"
When you express gratitude to your children, you help both you and them feel happier. Psychological research has shown that sincere words and actions of gratitude make us happier.
We easily forget to express our feelings in our closest relationships (Illustration: Vecteezy).
For example, a family is going through a difficult financial period, but if that family always knows how to appreciate their relatives, knows how to thank each other for the good things they do for each other in daily life, that family will be less stressed and miserable because of financial constraints.
In daily life, parents need to be the first to see their children's efforts and thank them respectfully for their efforts.
"You are great"
We often underestimate the importance of compliments in our daily lives. In fact, compliments have the same stimulating effect on the brain as when a person is given... money.
Parents should pay attention to their children's good qualities such as patience, kindness, or courage... to praise them. These compliments are very meaningful to children and will help the relationship between parents and children become more meaningful and better.
"Parents forgive me"
We tend to judge other people’s mistakes more harshly than our own. So when our children make mistakes, parents can easily become overly harsh. Be gentle with your children’s mistakes and understand that making mistakes is a necessary part of learning and growing up.
"Keep trying"
We all have goals to achieve, but along the way there will be difficulties and challenges. Sometimes we even have to go through setbacks. This happens to children too.
When parents and children set goals together, such as learning goals, children cannot always complete them as expected. Parents' encouragement will help children to be more patient and enthusiastic about the tasks they are assigned, as well as have more positive feelings about their parents.
No matter how busy life is, parents still need to spend quality time with their children (Illustration: Vecteezy).
"Do you need any help?"
Psychologists have found that as early as age 7, children begin to develop a fear of asking for help. They begin to fear that asking for help will make them look “inferior” in the eyes of others, including their parents. To break this mentality in children, parents need to proactively ask if their children need their attention or support.
"You are very important to your parents", "your parents love you"
We easily forget to express our feelings in our closest relationships, which can easily leave our loved ones feeling unappreciated.
To avoid this tendency in children, parents need to know how to express their feelings to their children when they are young. This will help children grow up knowing how to express their feelings and appreciation for their loved ones.
Every loving moment has a positive impact on the relationship, helping both parties feel happier and more satisfied. Therefore, parents need to proactively create meaningful loving moments for their children.
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